Bipolar and Depressed

I have been in a relationship for almost a year now with a girl who is Bipolar and deals with depression. The hard parts of the relationship are not so much these problems as it is on how she became this way.

Do not fool yourself. There is no way of fixing this. There are only ways of trying to make it better. For some, this might not be so bad or so hard. In my case, the PTSD from her previous relationships makes this harder along with a history of abuse.

Going out on a normal date doesn't work. Why do you ask? She doesn't like people. A lack of self-confidence and overthinking everything because one of the side effects of her depression is she at times hears voices, as she puts it, telling her how others may be judging her.

The best type of date for her is being out in nature away from people fishing or camping. This is normally not a problem, other then I am a founding member of a group trying to get non-profit set up and deal with many people. Then to add with my job, I am on calls and have a texting board that I and other drivers are on to receive messages all the time. For some, this would not be a problem. For her, it always brings up the question: is that another girl texting him? Does he have a side dish? Is that one of the kids? Between us, we have 8 kids. Two of mine are older, live out of the home, and I co-parent the two younger ones. Her two daughters live with her exes and her two younger boys live with her.

As you can see this relationship gets harder and harder ,no pun intended. The worst part—well, two worse parts—are, because of past abuses in her life, asking her questions she sees as degrading and should not be done. Then there are the voices again that tell her best way of catching an untruth is by lying yourself about something.

I found this out the hard way. It started with her texting another guy. When you do not work and live in subsidized housing you tend to have free time on your hands. When you have voices telling you he is doing it also, then it must be ok to text other guys and be on dating sites.

Her ex who uses women like most people drink water did not help with this, as she is a sex addict and he is also but can not admit it. For her, she wants a relationship and to be in love. For him, he just uses a woman for what he wants cheating on his wife while doing so. The other 4 to 6 women are not good enough for him as they are not always available so he starts texting her using VoIP phone numbers saying it is me and sending pictures of the other women he is seeing all in bedrooms. Normally this would have failed but he has access to some of her accounts on POF (Plenty of Fish) dating site and her FB account. Plus he has my phone number because she had told him to F off and deal with me. So now I am getting texts from her accounts telling me about her past and how this supposed other chic is going to break us up because they are fatally attracted to me. This does not go over well with me so we get into an argument and in the middle of it she turns around tells me to stop texting her. My phone is in the inside pocket of my jacket so she finds out it is not me but the damage has already been done and I find out about all these other text messages. The normal relationship I would have already been told or asked about them. For her questions are degrading to have to ask or to be asked...

So how does one deal with this, knowing they are falling in love? Not because of looks or smarts but because of her compassion and strength of will. The fact that she got away from drinking and drugs and being abused. She has a kind heart and really wants to help others.

This is still going on. If it interests you, I will know from the reads and try posting items and supplements that we have found helps with the depression and mood swings from the bipolar disorder.

A supplement that helps women in many ways. As always, please research it and its effects with other meds before using it.