A young man swayed by life advice

It seems that we have received all kinds of life advice since childhood. Parents advise you to give up your hobbies and study hard in academic classes, teachers advise you to pay less attention to your favorite literature and do better in math. These advice seems to be unreasonable in some sense. Do you really have the ability to pursue those hobbies that you've stuck with for years when you're running for life and overwhelmed by reality? When you can't get better educational resources, good cultural atmosphere, good teacher guidance, you are good at the subject, will there be better development? In some ways, life advice is "useful" and will make us "happier" or "better" in the future. So we follow life advice, avoid the detour, get there easier, feel smug, and see a lot of grown-ups, who didn't take life advice, line up a bunch of "what if" sentences, beat their chests, and feel miserable. We give ourselves too much life advice, so we look around, turn back, indulge in the past and fantasy, and even stop fighting. I've heard a lot of parents tell their children, I was just like you and I didn't listen to advice, so I'm poor and unhappy now. But if you think about this sentence carefully, is your whole life, or one thing, really going to never change because you didn't listen to someone else?

Why don't we change our perspective and ask ourselves the question, what is life for? What are the standards by which we evaluate our lives? Is to make full use of their maximum value, is to read the highest degree, or become the richest person. I do not know from when, all kinds of success learning books and lectures appeared, but we have never given a real definition of success since ancient times. In today's world, most people define success in life as the most comfortable life with the least amount of hardship. Comfort here refers not only to the material, but also to the spiritual satisfaction, such as the satisfaction of vanity, or Maslow said the realization of self-worth.

But I want to say, the definition of success in life, can we make it more diverse, or focus on the process and the present. I believe that 30 years from now, I will never give myself life advice. In my opinion, life is an experience, since we come to this world, we are constantly exploring, what is a good life in my opinion? What am I supposed to make of myself? This question, we can use a lifetime to explore, use a lifetime to answer, this is our answer, don't others tell us his answer. I hope young people have a brave spirit, do not be afraid of losses, do not be afraid of not taking the most recent road, how do you know there is no beautiful scenery and extra harvest in the detour. When we think carefully about other people's life advice but still feel that it goes against what we want to do, why don't we trust ourselves? It doesn't matter if we're wrong, it doesn't matter if we're detoured, at least this is our own answer. Only through these experiences can we know what we want, what to do next, how to choose and how to choose. Instead of going through life wondering, "Who do I listen to?" This question, to grow must listen to yourself, constantly to fill their own, to find the answer, the most precious thing in life, is not that you are always the most happy, but in a variety of experiences, you gradually know how to achieve their own.

I would like to speak to those parents who often tell their children that they are poor and unhappy because they did not follow other people's life advice. A person, want to change to efforts, never too late to what time, when you find your choices, not what you want, you have the right to look back at any time, to strive to change, you are only after trial and error, there is no reflection on what you want, abandon the muddle along, this is your problem, did not listen to others life advice.

Hopefully, 30 years from now, when you're asked, do you have any life advice for your former self? You can say, no advice, let her try, grow, understand, because this is life itself, because her life is not complete because of one less step, one less pain. I really hope that your life is a person who controls everything by himself, who has something firmly in his heart, so that he will not be confused and live up to this journey. The life advice of others is used to inspire him, not to intimidate and force him to surrender himself.