7 Things That Made You Suck!

Do you want to convince someone you’re a weak, insecure, overly self-conscious, needy, scared excuse for a person? Sure, one of these might not get your reputation in the dumpster, but if you start racking up numbers, you likely suck in some people’s eyes. These are the seven things that failing to keep quiet or private about will get you rated high on the suck-o-meter.

Why would you be so open with your biggest goals?

So, if you’re not aware, there are always those people around you who lack inspiration. If you give your goals to them, they can steal them. The discussion leads to the idea, which leads to the specifics, and then someone else has stolen the idea.

Your biggest goals are yours. These are like your best hand of cards. You should play things close to the vest and not overshare them. When you’re close to achieving your biggest goals, then you can safely bring more people into your circle. Until you’ve done it, keep it to parents, spouse, siblings, and one or two close friends. And that’s probably still too many, but you get the drift.

The Next Step

It’s not important to tell people what you’re going to do next. In the event of failure, you should discuss your next step only with those affected by it other than you. Nobody else needs to know.

In the case of success, until you’re all the way to where you want to be, why would you be sharing your steps? Competition can cloud judgment, and people can be ruthless when they see an easy opportunity. So, don’t give them one. Don’t give away the store for free.

Sharing Family Business

Tony Soprano might have given you an epic beatdown, and in the mob, that would be lucky. You never talk about family business without a reason.

Why do people so openly share family problems? Did they need to talk to someone that badly? It’s often, more times than not, embarrassing to the point that listeners want to say, “Shut up.”

Stop Painting A Target On Your Back

First, congratulations on all your success. It’s amazing. You worked hard. You earned every bit of your success. Now, here’s another piece of advice you should take. Stuff a sock in it!

The fact is, your success can breed things like envy. So, even talking too much about it with some trusted members of your circle is a risk. But you don’t want to put a target on yourself by sharing with too many new people that you’re making a lot of money.

Bragging is fun for a minute, but keep it to those who don’t mind, are close personal friends, and keep it to sharing a quick story rather than bragging.

And remember, strangers love to hear about how much money you make, then figure out where you live. They’re called thieves, burglars, and gold diggers.

Be Truly Kind and Don’t Brag About It

Kindness rocks. We need more kindness in the world. But if you’re spending three times more energy on telling stories of your kind and generous acts, then it’s not as genuine as you think. Go and do something else that’s kind, rather than bragging for attention about one kind act.

Well…DUH!

I know, you’re probably thinking why is this even an issue.

When I first got sick with cancer, that’s all I could think about. It’s all I could focus on at times. And, I’d bet, I talked about it more than I should have. Particularly, what it was doing to me.

The effects of cancer will get to you, and it will weaken you. The long-term effects of medicines and treatments will weaken you. But why would you overly acknowledge your weaknesses? I shouldn’t have.

Don’t share your weaknesses. It makes you an easier target, easier to ridicule, and easier to attack. That’s at home, in the office, or wherever.

Stop Sharing Plan B

No, ladies, keep sharing those. Those pills are okay to share if a friend needs one. Frankly, with the cost of everything, we’d prefer the buddy system.

Plan B to stop sharing is your backup plan. Why are you sharing your backup plan? Do you want someone to steal it from you?

A better question is, why do you have a plan B? Did you have so little faith in yourself and your plan A?

In conclusion, there are things that make sense. Doing any one of these alone adds to your suck-o-meter scale. In life, you want it as low as possible on the suck-o-meter, so remember, not everything needs to be a big show.

And, how did you do? I'm hovering around 40 percent sucktitude at times. Even I can improve.