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10 Things You Should Know About the ESTJ Female

Some points may be pleasantly surprising to you.

By Candace RobertsPublished 6 years ago 4 min read
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ESTJ women are adventurous, creative, romantic, and caring.

ESTJ is one of sixteen personality types in the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI). ESTJ stands for Extrovert, Sensation, Thinking, and Judging.Don't be fooled by the word "judging." This does not make an ESTJ, or any other judging type in this system for that matter, judgmental. Rather, it determines how you prefer to make decisions.ESTJs make up roughly 10 percent of the general population, give or take, which is actually quite a lot. While there are far more men out there with this personality type, there are also many women of this type.Without further ado, let's get into what makes the ESTJ female tick and why it's good to have one in your life.

1. We can make great leaders.

ESTJs can excel at leading a group of people, be it at the workplace or when organizing something fun such as a vacation, a party, or what have you. If you want someone who knows what they're doing, an ESTJ may be just the person to turn to.

2. We are assertive.

While our ESFJ cousins tend to be more diplomatic, we are very straightforward with our communication style. We cut the crap and are not afraid to just state what we want or need in a given moment. You don't have to worry about pretenses when you are with us, which leads me to my next point.

3. We are brutally honest.

Give or take. If we don't know you well, we may be a little more diplomatic. But if we know you well and we know your flaws, we will be honest with you about them. This shouldn't be taken wrong, because it's just how we are with people we like.

4. We are the epitome of tough love.

With the exception of ENTJs, ESTJs are tough love personified. If we love you enough, we will tell you what you don't want to hear. Our motives for this are usually not selfish, but it can be misunderstood if you don't "speak our language," or just don't know us well in general. But, if your ESTJ is a healthy one, there is no mistake about it. Your ESTJ is showing love in their own special way by saying what you need to hear, even if it's something you don't like.

5. We actually are romantic.

The ESTJ's mirror type, INFP, is said to be the most romantic. But honestly, any MBTI type can be romantic. ESTJ women can be idealistic. Not to the extent of an INFP for sure, and ESTJ women usually can tell when idealistic becomes unrealistic. ESTJs in general have a nice, romantic side to them.

6. At the same time, we are usually more realistic.

Now that I have established that ESTJs do have a romantic side to them, another perk is that ESTJs are usually more realistic in their expectations of a romantic partner than many other types are.

7. We are nurturing.

ESTJs genuinely care about their loved ones. While our ESFJ counterparts may be more physically affectionate and generous with their words, ESTJs may prefer to show their affection by spending quality time with the ones they love. They also may show it through deeds, such as cooking for them or cleaning the house.

8. We are more intuitive and emotionally intelligent than you think.

ESTJs may "play dumb" when it comes to emotional matters. But deep down, they know what is most likely going on. They just prefer to keep silent until their insights turn out to be true. In the end, they often end up saying, "I thought so."

ESTJs are also more aware of someone's emotional state than you may think. This may be more common among ESTJ women, but as extroverts they are attuned to anything outside of themselves, which includes other people.

9. We are creative.

Maybe not so much during the work day. That is for getting things done "the right way." But ESTJs love to brainstorm and are often creative and artistic. Some are photographers, some are dancers, some are artists. It all depends on the ESTJ. Some are a little of everything. When not worrying about work, they see creative possibilities everywhere. When utilizing their thinking side along with this, they can turn their creative vision into reality.

10. We are more intellectual than you think.

ESTJs usually leave intellectual debate for leisure time with friends, but they still enjoy it and even find it useful and practical at times. They may not speak as metaphorically as their ENTJ counterparts, but the intellect is still there and ESTJs can be fun to debate with.

As you can probably see by now, ESTJ women are great to have in your life. While a very common type, each one is still unique like any other personality type.

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