The Female's Social Media Quandary

The paradoxical standpoint of a woman on social media...minding her own gosh darned business is as follows:

You share some self-serving and otherwise mundane post

Something about things you want to do or be in the future

Something about being a blessing to others in need

All that jazz

Things of that nature

And whatnot

Then in come the likes and replies

That you read and subsequently ignore

Because a response is not necessary and not required of you

But after a multiple replies from the same few people you start to feel bad

Rude even

Just another day in the life

Of women having to feel like the bad guy

And feeling awkward because someone keeps sending messages that you feel obligated to respond to

And you don't want to be mean

So you inevitably reply

Society has shaped you into thinking that you have to bow down to the fragility of the male ego

But then you see a message that you wish didn't come through

So here you are, feeling like you can't post on social media

Because if you do

He will know that you didn't read his message

That you are ignoring it in fact

But here's the thing...

Women have the right to be on social media without being propositioned

We just want to post things without being hit on

But apparently that is too much to ask for

And maybe I'm being presumptuous

But what else does it mean when someone sends you a "Good morning" DM just after 6:30 AM

Then later proceeds to ask you to grab food with them

Oh okay, so you see it too

Just making sure I'm not an egotistical monster

Not to detract from how the men may feel

But the fact of the matter is

Women go through multiple emotions

While over-thinking every possible move we can make

Thinking 'he's a nice guy I don't want to be rude

Maybe he didn't even mean it like that'

Now you're having a full-blown

Hypothetical conversation based on what you want to say

Stuck in this rut thinking about what he will think of you

Will he say

That you're a tease

That you pretend to be nice

When in reality you're a bitch

P.s you're not...that's not even remotely true

Then another convo starts in your head based on you changing your approach

This goes on for hours

Or in some cases...days

Maybe even weeks

Consuming you with guilt

Until you finally just want to get it over with

And you finally do

You respond

Well there...it's done

But now you've made things awkward

But

Did you

Society would have you think so

But you just gave the answer you wanted to give

And in Society's perspective it is the wrong answer

And now he is probably feeling some type of way

But so are you

Because you have leaned into the societal ideology of protecting the patriarchy by any means necessary

So you feel terrible

You think that you've made things awkward

When in actuality it is him who has made things awkward

By shooting his shot

Is it your fault that he bricked?

NO!

But it sure feels that way

Doesn't it

But while you are sitting blaming yourself

No blame is put on him

Just another one of Society's constructs

Then you want to make a post saying something of the sort

"Listen up Society

Women can be nice to men without any motive

Her being nice doesn't mean she is flirting

Niceness doesn't equate to interest"

But you don't want him to know that the potential post is about him

So you don't post it

Even though it's such a good message

This, my friends

Is the moral quandary of women on social media

And I hope that one day

It doesn't phase me anymore

This is my wish for the entirety of the female population

No pressure to say "yes" when you really want to say "no"

No feeling of associated guilt

Let your "no" mean no

And keep it pushing

You should feel good about standing up for what you want

No more "I have to say yes so I don't come across as rude"

You are not a bitch

You are an empowered woman who spoke her truth

No more bowing down to the male ego

Own your right to say no

Otherwise you live with unfairness that is the double edged sword we women face everyday in society

Those feelings of guilt if we say no to men

Not wanting to be rude

Wondering how we will be perceived

Praying that our no won't be met with wrath

And all of the other thought patterns that have been passed down from generation to generation

Things that are so wound up in our DNA that the very thought of unraveling them leaves our heads spinning

Well, it's time to splice this from our genetic code

And insert mutations of our own

To become a new breed of generational curse breakers

Genetically modified to our own liking

Properly dubbed

The Nay Sayer