My World, My Emergence
We need to practise greater empathy towards our most vulnerable.
my world is fluid
warm, smooth
like milk
the God, the other part of me
She eats something strong
I taste the tang of it
in my tight, silky ocean
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my world is loud
our blood thunders
my other heart thudding above me
reverberating through my soles
my soul
I hear her voice
so close
yet an ocean away
the thrumming thread
that holds my world together
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my world is Her
I feel Her
She is with me always
I feel Her heat
Her heartbeat
at my feet
my sleep is in the sway of each step
She speaks to me
I know her touch
muted by red-black walls
but unmistakeable
wait - another's hand
I freeze
I hear disappointed murmurs
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my world is dark
I feel, rather than see
there are occasional bright lights
*
my world changes
the tremors increase
I hear Her call out
to me?
I'm coming
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my world shrinks
a squeezing pulse
to match Her cries
never has She hugged me so tightly
and never will again
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my world is on a precipice
alien sensation at the top of my head
it feels cool?
dry? air.
Her hand greets me
unmuted for the first time
joy
I am coming
silk threads pour from my nose and mouth
Her fingers gently find my ear, my face
I am coming!
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I am here!
my world is new
scary
cold
bright
loud
hard
weird
empty
I reach for Her
arms flung out
air rushing through my nose
my voice tearing from my throat
I burn with the ferocity of it all
Her arms around me
safe now
thudthudthud
I know this
this heat
heartbeat
smell
Hers
ours
home
milk
a touch of the ocean
my ocean, my home
this is old as time
and as familiar
I am here
I am home
I am hungry
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my world is scratchy
violently coloured
damp
sore
strange
wide
but She
an island of rightness
a little piece of silk
wrapped around me
a sigh
of what the world is supposed to be
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Thank you for reading! Please leave me a comment and tell me what you think.
Fun Fact
Did you know that today, (5th May) is the International Day of the Midwife?
Inspiration
I was inspired to write this by Frederick Leboyer's book, "Birth Without Violence". Leboyer was a revolutionary voice during the '70s. At the time, in the birth room, babies were hardly considered people at all. Their feelings, their experience - it didn't matter. He encouraged us all to empathise with neonates. Huge strides were made in the improvement of maternity care, in great part thanks to his insight. I firmly believe that hat work has to continue!
The Importance of the Mother-Baby
In my opinion, the worst thing you can do to a motherbaby is to separate them. At the point of birth, they are hardly two people at all, and certainly not from the perspective of the newborn infant. The situation must be truly dire for mum or baby to consider parting them, and then every effort must be made to reunite them as soon as it is possible to do that safely.
The Baby's Perspective
It's also important for new parents to really soak in this perspective prior to their baby's arrival. This helps them manage their expectations and understand their baby's behaviour. It supports them to parent responsively and ignore outdated advice to "cry it out" or you'll "make a rod for your own back". It gives them insight into how to calm their baby when he or she is distressed. When we take a moment to pause and think, what is it like for the baby? what does the baby feel? we are more patient, more loving. We are reassured that we are normal, and our baby is normal. This is just hard - for them and for us - but it will pass. We're also emboldened to cwtch our babies as much as they need, or as much as we want - we know in our bones that it doesn't "spoil" them. It meets their profound need for human contact, and a sense of safety.
About the Creator
Sam The Doula (Blooming Miracle)
Childbirth Eductator since 2011
Building a resource for mothers-to-be to feel informed and confident about their choices
You can find me on Facebook or book classes with me
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Comments (5)
This was a wonderful Poem. Beautifully written loved the perspective.
trhis was a wonder-full ride and a very interesting choice! ambitious to create this perspective, Sam. Pretty darned good!
This was beautiful and hard to read for me. But I’m glad I did! I had traumatic birth experiences and often wonder about how those experiences impacted my babies. ❤️❤️
Magical <3
As someone who's given birth three times, that's a beautiful poem.