My Cousin
The Golden Boy
I always dreaded when they came to visit
My father’s oldest sister,
My uncle and their youngest son, Michael
Everyone thought he was the golden boy
High school baseball star and crack shot hunter
He was everything an East Texas redneck boy was raised to be
They would drive from Beaumont to Southern New Mexico
For their yearly vacations and stay for a week
I was ten when my cousin started touching me
He was 12.
My aunt and uncle stayed in my bedroom
And my cousin and I were put together in the guest room
Twin beds, but that did not stop him
Every night when the grownups were clearly asleep
He would sneak over to my bed and push me over
Brazenly crawling into my bed
Wrapping his arms around me
Grinding himself into my back
I did not know what he was doing
Putting his hands on my tiny breasts
And sliding his hands into my pajama bottoms
Kissing my neck, flipping me over and kissing my mouth,
Putting his tongue down my throat
I was ten
I knew it was wrong.
I knew it was very wrong.
I knew it was so very wrong.
And when I would pull away and say no
He’d lay on top of me and put his hand over my mouth
Keeping me from making any noise or moving
As he touched me everywhere he was not supposed to
He terrified me.
I cried.
This went on for three years.
He never penetrated me.
But the molestation was very real
And traumatizing
When my parents would send me
To visit my grandparents in the summer
In the town he lived in,
He’d always ask to stay the night
So he could "visit" with me
No one thought that was strange
They thought it was "precious" and "sweet"
While he was supposedly sleeping in the living room
On the nasty old brown pull out sofa
My Grandparents never replaced
He'd once again wait for the adults to fall asleep
And then he’d sneak into the room where I was
Trying to sleep
And touch me just like he did it at my house
One time, I crawled under the bed hoping he wouldn’t find me
He just pulled me out by my foot
My grandmother caught him once
Laying on me and kissing me
And I asked her to make him stop
She just giggled and told me she thought it was
Cute that he and I were such good friends.
Cute...
Precious...
Sweet...
Not the words one associates with molestation
I told my mother and she turned the blame on me and said
I just wanted to cause trouble and wanted attention
And to not say anything
One afternoon when my soul was completely shattered,
By not only this betrayal, but so many other betrayals,
I felt I had nowhere to turn
I went to my grandmother’s drug cabinet
Grabbed a bottle of the closest pills
I had no idea what they were
I took a handful and swallowed them
With a bottle of Dr Pepper I had pilfered from the garage
Thinking I would end it all
That God would welcome me back home
Thinking my being with these people was a big mistake
And I was sure he would let me start over with another family
But God let me down
And nothing happened
I survived
Waking up the next morning still living in the nightmare
Feeling even more abandoned and shattered
Not just by my family
But by the Divinity that was supposed to love me
I found comfort and self-medicated with food
Shoving down the trauma and feelings
With donuts, cookies, candy and soda.
Becoming overweight and unhealthy
Not wanting attention from any boys
My weight and standoffishness kept them away
When I was 19, Michael was discharged by the Air Force
And moved to the city where I had gotten my first apartment
I had worked so hard to get away from all of them
But my father gave Michael a key to my home
Telling him he could stay there until
He got on his feet
He was the Golden Boy after all
My apartment!
My home!
I was forced to let him live with me
Because I was raised that you did what your father told you to do
And that family came first no matter what they did
There were no boundaries or respect or concern for me
Even if it meant letting your molester move into your home
He did not touch me during this time
I was 19 and too old
He liked young stuff
He ended up marrying a 16 year old girl
He died when I was 27 and he was 29
They claim it was liver failure
He was a heavy drinker,
But I am certain it was HIV
His lifestyle was consistent with that diagnosis
But that was the "gay" disease, and no one would ever
No one in my arrogant and ignorant family would ever
Allow that word to be used in conjunction with the Golden boy
It was 1987
I worked in a hospital in Boston at the time,
I knew what Kaposi's looked like
He was covered in sores, he withered away,
Coughing up blood at the end, attached to machines
That allowed him to breathe, eat and semi-function
He left behind a very young wife and two small children
His shame for what he did to me, and I am sure others,
Was never made public
I just had to deal with it every day I looked in the mirror
The family gathered around wallowing in the
Tragedy of his so-called untimely death
Asking me to donate money to support his widow
I did not feel bad when he died
I did not grieve
I felt relief for his young daughter thinking
His death might have prevented and protected her from his molestation
And I felt vindicated
Karma had done her work.
- Julie O'Hara
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