It's Not Them... It's You

I pray

That eventually you’ll realize

That it was you all along

That deserved you.

It was you that deserved your best effort

It was you that deserved the love you feel like you need to gift away

Just to get breadcrumbs in return

Just for a taste of love, but still not enough to satiate your hunger

It was you that deserved to be apart of your wildest dreams and fantasies

And it was you that deserved the world

A world where you are in control of your smile

No one else.

The life you so desperately desire could never be given to you by another

Life isn’t that easy — but it is this simple:

Give every ounce and inch of yourself to you

The most generous act of kindness one could give to another

Is actually giving to oneself.

See, it is only you that has the power to fill your cup of love and happiness

If your heart were a deep well

Only you are responsible for manually replenishing the supply

If you rely on another to do the dirty work for you

Expect to become a victim of theft, robbery, and pure laziness

But are you really a victim?

You gave them the okay, you gave them the key.

When you rely on another to fill you up emotionally

You are just giving them permission to disappoint you

For your definition of love and happiness is far different from another

So without that cup of fulfillment being full

There is nothing you could possibly give others to their satisfaction.

No matter how great the effect,

No matter how pure the intention.

Self care is not a trend — it is your ticket to true happiness

Isn’t that what you want after all?

Stop waiting for them to provide the happiness

That only you have the power to provide

Self care gives you the strength

To say “no” when you mean no

And “yes” only when and if you mean yes.

Self care prevents you from exhausting yourself

Drying out your own well

Only for quenching the thirst of another

Only to leave yourself parched

Begging for more

Self care teaches you to be at peace

For the filling of your cup

Finally.

It has always been you — and always will be you

That deserves

Every ounce

Every inch

Of your being.

It’s not them,

It’s you.