You Are Worthy

'I guess in the end I'm just afraid.

Afraid of looking back at all that has happened and know that I could have done more.'

This very same feeling of anxiety and fear is ever present in so many people I know. We all have this constant pressure to be more and do more. To represent ourselves perfectly, to show wit and character. To be exactly what people expect us to be or even to not be that at all. There is a rising need in this generation to be accepted and for good reason - we have never been more isolated in human history. Our connection to one another has been reduced to the availability of wifi - but that’s an argument for another day. Today I want to address what you have to offer the world - and more importantly, your motivation behind it.

I have seen countless scenarios where people beat themselves up constantly because they don’t fit into the mold. They lack certain qualities - not jumping high enough for the basketball team. Not funny enough to keep people interested. Not pretty enough to keep them around or rich enough to hold their own. It’s all a game until you decide to not play along.

So what do I mean by that? Well, this is where is gets harder.

Life becomes a no-win situation the moment we start living to impress other people. It also becomes a very isolated situation the moment we start living for ourselves. The happy medium is this - LIVE TO SERVE THOSE AROUND YOU BUT NEVER SEEK THEIR APPROVAL TO VALIDATE YOUR IDENTITY!

LIVE TO SERVE

We would all go a little bit crazy, a little narcissistic and way too lonely the day we decide to live only for ourselves and what benefits us. Our instinct will always be to protect ourselves no matter what, however in the same breath our nature will always be to care for others. These two traits will present itself as a choice, a choice we make daily. Keep in mind that it’s the one you constantly entertain that will ultimately win the fight. So if anything, make a point to really care about the people in your life. To not just ask the three generic we have stored in our minds but really find out what is happening in the world around you. It might surprise you how many have been through what you are struggling with - and how many people need to fight the battles you’ve already overcome.

APPROVAL? FOR WHAT?

Constantly needing validation from your friends and family is something even I have had to address in the past. It’s the silent killer of individualism, confidence, ambition and personal drive. It’s something that only breeds comparison and in my opinion it’s the worst state people find themselves in.

Food for thought: A mere 100 years ago people were content with what they had - simply because they never knew what they didn't have.

They didn't have a newsfeed that reminded them of the holidays they can't afford. Or a certain number of 'friends' that showed interest in them by liking their pictures. More importantly they didn't have to compare themselves to millions of people around the world - every. single. Day.

Hear me out when I say it’s a losing battle. There will always be the next trend to strive towards.

So go ahead and sit down, take out your notepad and jot down clear and simple: Who am I? And then answer it.

Whatever comes out, or whatever doesn’t, will give you a very clear indication of the work that still needs to be done. Because effectively the moment we decide to drown out the opinions of everyone else in this world - the only voice you’ll keep hearing is your own? So what’s it saying? Rather work on that then work yourself to death on an opinion that can turn on you the very next day.

Final thoughts.

You are worthy.

You are important.

You are not left behind.

And you are the son/daughter of Royalty. Never forget that.