Why are you doing so poorly? Essentially, it's because your ancestors did poorly!

In fact, in this world, no one wants to live a wors

e life, and no one wants to endure hardship. However, have you ever considered why you are living so poorly and always struggling in this society? Essentially, it's because your ancestors did not do well.

I have always held the view that for a person to do

well, it is the result of various factors coming together. The achievements a person ultimately attains are not greatly related to how much effort they put in. Essentially, it is determined by various factors such as the era, resources, family, etc., with family playing a decisive role, especially in today's era of competitive resources.Why do I say this? There are many hard-working people in this world, but very few actually change their fate. Can you say that those who work on construction sites are not hardworking? Can you say that those who work in the fields are not hardworking? Then why can't they change their fate?Essentially, it is because they do not have resources, meaning that their ancestors were very poor, and their parents were not successful individuals in society, which is why their lives are difficult and miserable. This is not merely a problem of income; it is more about their mindset and understanding of social structure and wealth generation.I have always believed that making money is never the goal; the goal is to do things. Only when your understanding and knowledge framework can gain recognition from certain people, then wealth becomes their natural reward and return to you!At this point, many might argue that I am just complaining about parents not working hard. But what I truly want to say is that 80% of your child's fate is in the hands of their parents. We often say: our lives are given by our parents, but isn't our fate also dependent on them?Parents provide not only your life but also lock in your fate. If your parents are officials, you are born a second-generation; if your parents are rich, you are born with everything; what if your parents are from the lower class? Think about what kind of fate you might have. The suffering of parents is not caused by you, but your suffering is indeed brought about by them. Without you, wouldn't they be successful people?From my own experience, I have seen that those children with wealthy parents in my class generally don't perform particularly well academically and did not get into particularly good universities, yet you have to admit that they generally fare better in society later on.So sometimes I wonder, what is the purpose of learning? What is the essence of how this society operates? Later, when I was studying for my master's degree, I understood. The essence of this society is the law of the jungle: the weak are preyed upon by the strong, survival of the fittest.Even if you have a high degree, in essence, you are still seeking a job. Whether you are starting a business or looking for a job, you are simply a selected commodity, waiting to be chosen. If you have no background, you can only rely on your existing degree as your greatest support to gain recognition. On the other hand, those whose parents are in the upper class only need a recommendation letter from their parents to ascend to great heights.The essence of your hard work in studying is to social circle, to meet those who can change your fate!

So, why do you live in such pain and feel so exhausted in life? Essentially, it is because your parents, under their limited understanding, have failed to seize the benefits of their times, moving up a social class. They cling to outdated and stubborn ideas and expect you to live like them, yet they complain about why you are not successful.From the bottom to where I am today, I can say that I have completely changed my fate, and the fate of my children in the future. He will no longer have to endure everything I once experienced, facing so many disapproving looks and bullying. Chinese parents always want their children to be obedient. I have never really understood why we need to be obedient. It wasn't until I read more and more books that I gradually understood. Obedience requires us to listen to whom?The premise of obedience is listening to the right voices. It's not that we shouldn't listen to our parents, but we should listen dialectically. We need to consider who our parents are and what their status is. If your parents are businesspeople or politicians, high-ranking officials, or great merchants, then you should definitely listen to their advice, because they did not reach their current position easily.However, if your parents are ordinary workers or farmers, should you still listen to them? If they really understood the mechanics of society, would they still be living such lives?So from this perspective, when a child can argue back with you, it is a sign of progress. The essence of educating him is to accept ideas beyond your family, and only when he breaks free from the constraints of your family's original thoughts can he be reborn and transform completely.

For any family to change its fate, there needs to be someone within that family who can alter its trajectory. For example, an official or a businessman emerging from a farming background. They change the longstanding operational model of the family, exploring a new path that completely transforms the family's tragic destiny. Such people endure tremendous pain, bearing many burdens that shouldn't fall on them. I have always wanted to say one thing: any family that wants its descendants to have a more comfortable life in any industry must sacrifice the lives of one generation. When you step into a new field without any background, unfamiliar with the various complex circles here, you are starting from scratch. You are a newcomer, bullied and trampled upon. But there’s no alternative; you must persevere. One day, when you have influence and connections, you will become the greatest background and support for your children. I really dislike it when my parents say that other families have backgrounds, that others are doing so well. But I want to ask, isn't the background of the previous generation of those people the result of their hard work? They also changed their family's circumstances through their own efforts. Yet everyone only sees the brilliant moments and overlooks the hardships and pain that person endured behind the scenes. Therefore, the first college student, the first graduate student, the first staff member within the system in a family will always be the most painful and distressed. They only face bullying and oppression, slowly growing into a big tree amid this pain, gradually shielding their family from storms, becoming the person that others refer to as a family with someone prominent. Any family that wants to change its fate needs a person who can change the fate, and that person must sacrifice their whole generation's life...