This is what Positive Thinking Actually Looks Like

We have all heard about the most popular notion of the century “Positive Thinking is the way to go”, “Think Positive to be successful” and blah blah blah. We apparently think we know all about positive thinking, but there’s so much confusion regarding this concept.

It’s about time we draw a line between realistic positive thinking, which very few people tend to grasp, and fake positive thinking, which is actually not a very sweet deal to get yourself into.

So, before I go and tell you what actually ‘positive thinking’ is all about, let me first tell you what it isn’t.

Unrealistic/Fake Positive Thinking

Positive thinking doesn’t mean that things should happen according to your own whims, notions, or thinking. You may keep dreaming about some ‘goals’ all day long and expect that they will come true just because you are thinking all positive about them. Well, sorry to break it to you, this is not the real ‘positive thinking’.

Many people are of the opinion that if they just stick to thinking ‘positive’ about their future, neglecting the negativities, then great things are bound to happen; nuh-uh, this comes under the radar of fake positive thinking too. Some people also misinterpret and miscalculate the law of attraction too, owing to the same faulty and incomplete thinking.

In a nutshell, just stuffing your mind with ‘positive’, ‘positive’, and ‘positive’ all day long about a particular situation or person and completely abandoning the ‘facts & figures’, the ground reality, and seeing things as it is isn’t anywhere close to being actually POSITIVE.

These are basically examples of wishful thinking which is both unrealistic and naive and can be harmful at times. Your wish can be a hope or a need, but it has got nothing to do with ‘realistic positive thinking’.

Indulging in the ‘fake positive thinking’ is a rather dangerous trap, which you should avoid at any cost because here you want things that are not true to be true, and snub the things that actually are.

A Real-Life Example

We have all heard the news about students committing suicide just because he wasn’t able to score what he thought he could. Can you see the fatal flaw of wishful thinking? This is one extreme example.

But think about those thousands of students who go into depression, lose confidence, and think they are losers just because they fell short on marks.

What they do is that they set a goal of scoring a certain % in so and so class, and based on that %, they carve out their entire future plan, only to later find out that they couldn’t score what they thought they could. They can’t handle the pressure because they were so confident in achieving what they thought.

That’s one major flaw of ‘wishful thinking’. When people get so attached to their dreams, by thinking positively about them all the time, they have no idea what to do in case they fail.

You can see these types of examples in almost every arena of life.

People completely subside and snub the reality and just keep on chanting ‘positive, positive & positive’ all the time, and then ultimately get heartbroken and depressed because their dreams didn’t come true.

This is insanity and nuts, which needs to stop. Just because everyone preaches about positive thinking, doesn’t mean that you blindly follow them without understanding the actual essence of it.

What is Realistic Positive Thinking?

Life is a lot similar to that of Cricket in a pretty uncanny way. It’s like you are on the strike, batting, and the ‘Life’ is the bowler here, except, there are no wickets, or any other players in the field; just you and Life.

Life keeps on bowling but only as long as you choose to be on the strike. Most people think that they are out, the minute they miss a shot, but that’s not the right thinking, because like I told you, in this game of life there is actually no way of sending you back to the pavilion, until you yourself quit and head back.

As long as you are breathing, you can never be actually OUT, period. Doesn’t matter if you miss a few shots, the bowler here is pretty stubborn, it keeps on bowling until you lay down.

It doesn’t make sense for anyone to quit just because they missed a few shots, the opportunities are gonna keep on coming. That’s the real deal here.

Understanding this concept and living by this philosophy is the essence of realistic positive thinking.

Life is not limited to what your thinking is. You must have noticed things happening to you which you never thought would happen in your wildest dreams, and that’s because Life is way beyond what anyone can think.

If you miss the ball, then you gotta understand that it was just a missed opportunity, nothing more, nothing less. And the best part is that the opportunities are gonna keep on coming, as long as you are on the strike, and the even better part is that only you can decide for how long you wanna stay on the field.

Read full article here:

https://infinitians.com/realistic-positive-thinking-vs-fake-positive-thinking/