The Insecurity of a Human

You would be appalled by the number of people around you who suffer from insecurities. Maybe it's you with the insecurities. Or the girl who seems to have everything right in life. Maybe it's the guy with enough money to fund the UN.

Insecurities are all around us. And most people won't even notice if you held up a giant sign and waved it around.

Sometimes you worry if you're liked by someone. If you'll ever be happy with yourself. If you can't be happy with yourself, will anyone ever be happy with you? It makes you paranoid. It's an endless cycle, really, insecurity, low self-esteem, and paranoia. A cycle that is slowly and unknowingly destroying who you are.

So why write an article about it? Do I not have any insecurities? Am I certified to give you advice? Do I want to make a profit on what you think your flaws are?

To answer your valid and probable questions; No. No, I do. In fact, have insecurities and honestly—I spent too much of my life feeling insecure and belittled. No, I'm not certified to give you a lecture on self-love, I believe that it's you who is certified. Well, I don't necessarily plan on making a profit.

Let's start off with insecurities in general. Skin. Weight. Smile. You name it. Insecurities are born when people believe they are not perfect.

I wake up every morning wishing -praying- that I would have better skin. Better brains. More beauty.

You see, the most common insecurity is believing you're not good enough. Or "Atelphobia." The Greek word for "incomplete" or "imperfect."

If you've ever been compared to someone. A sibling. Classmate. Friend. Colleague. That brings a feeling of not being good enough, of not being able to achieve what they can. But, don't worry if not everyone loves you.

Because most people don't even love themselves.

Insecurities can be a weapon that will always bring you to your knees in a battle against your enemy. Why? Because your insecurity is your Achilles' heel. Never heard the story of Achilles' heel? Google it. This isn't a history note.

You could bottle it up and never tell anyone. This could go two ways.

One, you tell someone. They would probably joke about your insecurities (Or not) make you feel worse about it. Or you get into a fight and hence the topic of your insecurities comes up. Again, making you feel worse.

Two, you don't tell anyone. Bottling it up would again make it worse. You would feel the growing anxiety within you. No one would help. Because no one would know.

Personally, I suggest telling someone. If not, a journal or diary would do wonders. Tell someone who you trust. Someone who's told you an equally deep secret. Someone who would never use your insecurity as a joke or a weapon. It's hard to find someone like this, when you do. Never let them go.

A journal or diary is like a silent listener. Always listens but never speaks. You don't have to update the diary on a daily basis. Keep it for when you feel down, when someone belittles your existence.

I've done both of these. I still, to this day, write down everything I feel. Because outside this book, I'm stone cold without a drop of emotion within me.

Since we're talking about how to somehow help the insecurity within you.

Defense Mechanisms;

• Arrogance or ego.
• Barricading yourself.
• Training yourself to feel no emotion.

These mechanisms sort of come naturally to a person wanting to hide pain or insecurities. Don't blame them. Don't blame yourself for choosing to do any of this. It's a human quality to protect oneself. Your body does it against diseases. As does your mind.

Now, people could naturally just be arrogant, or could naturally be introverted and they may prefer to not show any emotions. Don't mistake them for being insecure.

They may. Or may not.

Look at them. Learn to read. How?

Their eyes. A gateway into a person's mind.

Ever read a book with the most common sentence? "His/ Her smile didn't reach his/her eyes." This phrase or sentence is ONLY used to depict a character going through pain.

If a person cannot make eye contact, it's maybe because they're insecure. Or well, they have a crush on you. You decide.

Most serial killers often accustom themselves to being able to read a human being through facial expressions and body gestures. Why? Because you unconsciously give out what you're feeling.

Think about yourself for a moment.

Do you cover your mouth when you laugh because you're insecure of your smile?

Do you prefer staring at someone's shoes whilst they talk?

Or do you subconsciously stare at someone with clear skin?

Think about all the little things you do.

And tell me,

Are you not insecure?