The best state of life is to "change" to control change

With the development of society, the world is changing every moment, to stay the same in response to changes is no longer feasible, to learn to change themselves, keep pace with the times, and achieve a better self.

A person's "iron rice bowl" should be to keep up with the times, to understand change, to know change.

Only if you are not afraid of change, you can meet with happiness.

1、Change thinking

When we are used to a way of thinking, we will unconsciously apply it to all things.

Think that we are thinking, but it is just the experience.

Over-reliance on habits will make the choices narrow, and over time will trap themselves in an invisible cage, and then it will be difficult to break free from fear.

In Tara Westover's autobiographical novel, "When You're Like a Bird Flying to Your Mountain," she describes her efforts to change her destiny and finds herself invisibly taught many misconceptions by her parents, that was hidden in her habits.

If she hadn't gotten into college, she would never have known how absurd the notions she originally held as truth existed.

At that time, she looked helpless, feeling that she could not break free from the shackles, but not willing to admit defeat.

She knew that she could only step into a new world if she could get rid of the foolishness of the past, so she made an effort to establish the right way of thinking through learning.

The process was painful, but the reward was rich, giving her a new understanding of the world and the courage to move into a better future.

Many times, those who can't walk the path are the limitations set by our thinking.

As long as you dare to take the first step, and break the limitations of thinking, you can move forward to "better".

Instead of being trapped in thinking, why not change your thinking, randomly and change, and achieve better?

2、Change your attitude

The road of life is changing rapidly, and there will be accidents at any time.

No one knows whether tomorrow will come first, or the accident will come first.

In the face of the unknown, all we can do is learn to bravely face it, whether good or bad, since it happened, there is no escape.

However, it is very simple to say, but few can do it.

Once you encounter an accident, you will inevitably be sad, you will panic ...... know that the brave face, optimistic treatment, but the real practice is too difficult, still can not help but want to collapse.

To change the attitude of life, not overnight can do, can not rational treatment is normal.

You may try to practice in life, whenever you lose your mind, tell yourself to calm down, perhaps you can find a turnaround, and not to lose your mind and make mistakes.

I heard a story about a man who came home and saw his wife sleeping in a bed with someone else, thought he was cuckolded, so angry that he wanted to kill the adulterous couple with a knife, but he thought someone had told him to take a step back when angry, he silently put down the knife.

When he calmed down, he slowly walked to the bed, and only then did he realize that his wife was sleeping in a bed with his mother.

If it was not in time to calm down, may have made an irreparable mistake.

The attitude change is just a thought, but may inadvertently change everything.

No matter how bad things are, don't deal with emotional outbursts, learn to calm down, change your attitude to face, and maybe make things turn around.

Perhaps life is not as it should be, but we can choose to face optimism, with a positive attitude to face all the unknown.

When we can not change the environment, only change the attitude to face life, there is a chance to win the surprise of growth, out of their wonderful life road.

3、Change the direction

"Do not hit the south wall, the heart will not die."

There is no shortage of such people in life, who chose a path, we have to go to the black, even if we hit the head and bleeding, but also do not admit defeat.

Although the will to persevere is worth learning but do not know how to adapt is foolish behavior.

To know that all roads lead to Rome, there is more than one way to go in life, there is no need to die on a road if how hard you can not go over, it is better to try to change direction and seek another viable road.

Sometimes, choosing to give up, on a different path to go, may not be a wise move.

There is more than one choice in life, instead of blindly insisting on the wrong path, it is better to try a different path to go, maybe open a new world so that you can find your own life.

Many times, timely change of direction, so as not to waste time on the wrong road, to find the road that suits you.

In your life, you make the decision, but do not go down the road to black.

The future is infinite, as long as you know how to change appropriately, you can eventually live into a better version of yourself.