Saturday Quote Of The Day (Fear Of Judgment)

I mentioned yesterday that no matter how much we try to run and hide from change, we will never be able to escape it, as change is something that is both inevitable and unavoidable in life. Change is a natural part of life after all, but there is another aspect of life we can neither run nor hide from also, but unfortunately, this aspect of life has been manufactured by humankind, and that is judgment. As a whole, humankind has become so opinionated, selfish, cold hearted, and arrogant, that the overwhelming majority of people worldwide can't refrain from judging others, and creating their own perception and assessment of others. Just from the way people dress, or look, or act, or behave, or speak, or associate with others, we have developed a terrible habit of categorizing others. We make assumptions about people without really knowing them, or understanding what they are dealing with, or have dealt with, in their lives. It's bad enough to judge others in such a way, but then what's even worse is that we form a negative opinion, dislike, and even hatred, towards others purely because they make decisions, or execute actions, or have certain beliefs, that don't fit our agenda, or that inconvenience us, or that we disagree with. None of us like being inconvenienced obviously, but when we are inconvenienced because someone is purely following their goals and dreams, and creating a future of their own design, that's blessed with happiness, success, and prosperity, and we become angry and frustrated about it, then we have a serious issue. Why should we be opposed to someone chasing their goals, and wanting to create the best future for themselves? Just because they make decisions, or engage in actions, that we wouldn't perhaps do ourselves, or we may disagree with, that's not their problem, it's ours! Everyone has the right to create a future filled with happiness and success for themselves after all, including ourselves. We should never judge people for that, nor stand in their way. In fact, we should be showing support and encouragement towards them, just as we would like from others when it comes to pursuing our own goals.

When it comes to ourselves as being the one who is judged, the problem is that so many of us are fearful of it. We don't want to be judged, we don't want people to think ill of us, we don't want to be disliked, we don't want to not be respected, we don't want to be rejected, we don't want to be categorized, we don't want to be perceived as abnormal, we don't want to be criticized, and we don't want to not fit in with others. We want people to accept us and like us as we are, faults and all, no matter the decisions we make, the actions we take, and what we believe in. Sadly, this fear of being judged by others actually controls many people's minds, to the point where they become a false version of their true selves, they start believing in what the majority of other people believe in, they start following the ways of society, and they base their decisions, actions, and behavior, on what pleases others. In doing so, they sacrifice their long term happiness, they sacrifice their goals, they sacrifice their potential, they sacrifice their future success, and they sacrifice their life, by trading it in for mere existence. People are so worried and concerned about how others perceive them, or how others are gossiping about them behind their back, that they will go out of their way to try and make sure that people like them, and they will do whatever it takes to fit in. They go about trying to please others. If they believe other people have a positive view about them, evident by how friendly they act around them, they can then feel at ease and feel comforted that they aren't being judged or gossiped about. How naïve people can be though! No matter how hard you try to fit in, or try to be liked, or try to be respected, or try to be accepted, people are always going to judge you and gossip about you. That's unfortunately the way of the world.

People have just become naturally judgmental about others. It's why we need to understand that whether we go to all the effort of trying to fit in and be liked, or whether we go to all the effort of making decisions and actions that are in our best interest, and working towards our goals, that either way, we are going to be judged. It makes it more transparent that we should be focusing on making decisions, and be executing the actions, that are working towards a future blessed with happiness, success, and prosperity for ourselves. Why waste time worrying about what others think of us, or how they perceive us? Let them! We can't control what others think of us, so why bother? All we can do is live by decent morals and values, through being kind, courteous, generous, compassionate, inspiring, loving, and supportive. Just be yourself! Don't give a second thought to what other people think about the decisions you are making, and the actions you are taking, if you believe in your heart that they are what is required to achieve your goals. If they want to judge, criticize, ridicule, or belittle you, in the process, then let them sink to that level. You're working on your life and your future, and that's all that should matter. Even on your day of success, people will still continue to judge you. Never let the fear of being judged prevent you from being yourself, and achieving your goals!

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