Sad When You're Happy

Have you ever felt 'lonely', empty and not happy when you should be happy? Like on your birthday or wedding anniversary, for example... One of the triggers for a bad mood may be because you tend to be too hard on yourself. Look for other symptoms and immediately free yourself from the trap that is ruining your happy mood.

This seasonal mood is called SAD syndrome or Seasonal Affective Disorder, which is sadness that a person experiences in certain seasons. Psychologist Peggi Elam from the site ivilledge.com said that this mood can cause someone to lose enthusiasm when the sky starts to get cloudy. “Even though at first he was in a good mood as bright as sunshine, it easily changed with dark skies or rain and storms. It could also cause him to be 'allergic' to certain weather. "This constant feeling of discomfort can lead to depression," said Elam.

Sufferers generally feel tired quickly, like to consume carbohydrates and high-calorie foods excessively, experience insomnia and even their immune system experiences a decline. "However, changes in mood based on the weather are still considered normal and not an acute disorder," added Elam.

How to fix it :

Try doing things you like when those annoying feelings start to come your way. Enjoying foods that have a calming effect such as chocolate is highly recommended. "This unpleasant feeling can be overcome by increasing the intensity of the light around you or painting the walls of the house with bright colors," said Norman E. Rosethal, author of the book Winter Blues. Try to arrange the room in such a way that the impression created is a bright and bright room. Don't let the objects around you become full of dust and don't forget to place fresh flowers in the room to create a pleasant mood.

Hate Birthdays

When your birthday party is in full swing, you actually feel uncomfortable. Or plans that have been neatly arranged do not run smoothly because some friends are unable to attend. This situation then makes you feel 'alone' and uncared for. The facts say that women do have a tendency to think and act more emotionally and easily offended on their birthdays. For example, if someone forgets to wish him a happy birthday.

How to fix it:

This feeling arises when you set your expectations too high and then don't achieve them. It could be that your birthday reminds you that you are getting older. These sensitive and anxious feelings are actually a manifestation of fear and anxiety. You are worried that you will not succeed in achieving your planned goals as you get older. Try to think about it, negative emotions arise because your subconscious wants it. For this reason, tell yourself that you can dispel these negative thoughts because they do not provide any benefit for your happiness.

“Keeping feelings positive is important. "Feelings reflect your response to life, your hopes and self-confidence," said Roberta Shaler, Ph.D, author of Optimize Your Day. Think about the things you have achieved rather than the things you have not achieved. Starting from the beautiful times at school, the first kiss to the most beautiful gift you have ever received.

Can't Enjoy Happiness

Always try to avoid every time you are invited to a wedding reception? Feelings of tightness and sadness began to come and go, filling my chest. Instead of feeling happy, you feel uncomfortable and want to go home.

People who often feel depressed when they are in an environment filled with happy people is usually because they compare themselves with these people and see that they are not happy enough.

How to fix it:

Be grateful for what you have. Just being able to breathe regularly every second is a gift from God that is of immeasurable value. Imagine a person who suffers from pneumonia and has difficulty breathing, for example... Look for the positive in every situation and feel the happiness of other people and think about one day you too will be able to enjoy that feeling of happiness, even though maybe not right now. Create light and interesting conversations with friends and open your heart to enjoy each conversation.