Prove Them Wrong

Undoubtedly, one of the worst things about the journey towards achieving our goals, is the lack of support, the opposition, the doubt, and the criticism, we receive from others. What makes that even worse again is the fact that many of these people are very close to our heart, and dear to us, such as our parents, our partner, our family, and our friends, the very exact people we believed would always be there for us. When we first start to encounter this lack of support, opposition, doubt, criticism, from them, it can be a real shock to the system. In all honesty, it's quite hurtful and upsetting. These are the very people that regularly tell us they love us, they care for us, and they want the best for us in life, and yet when it comes to the time where we take the plunge, and we have the courage to begin pursuing our goals and a future we desire for ourselves, they try and talk us out of it, or they oppose it. It doesn't make sense! They say they love and care for us, and they want the best for us, and yet they stop us from striving for the very thing that we believe in our heart will provide us happiness and success for the future. Why would someone that loves us want to stop us from achieving success and happiness? That's not love! It begs the question, why? Why do they oppose us, criticize us, doubt us, and withdraw their support for us? There are generally four reason behind why, them being agenda, inconvenience, superiority, and embarrassment. Let me elaborate on these. Firstly, agenda. When I say agenda, I mean that us pursuing our goal doesn't fit their agenda. What we are trying to accomplish is not what they envisioned or planned for us, and it's not what they want us to do. It's funny that we have each been blessed with our own life to live, yet for some reason, people like to believe they can manipulate us to live our life to their design also, and not our own. People will often try and manipulate us to follow their advice and recommendations, purely for their own personal gain, in some way, shape, or form.

Similar to agenda, comes the next reason, being inconvenience. Guaranteed, there will be decisions that you make, and actions that you take, on the journey towards achieving your goal, that will inconvenience others in some manner. Because you have to make changes to your daily routine and habits, from what you were previously doing, in order to accommodate the actions that are working towards your goal, those around you aren't accustomed, nor welcoming, to these changes, and many people don't like change at all. This may cause a disruption to their daily schedule, their routine, and the way they live, and this is a sure way to piss people off. Not that you are intentionally trying to inconvenience others, or piss people off, especially not those you love, but because you are willing to change yourself and your routine, and you have become committed to working towards achieving your goals, doesn't mean they are at the same stage in life. Perhaps they feel obliged to adjust their daily routine, or feel forced into doing something they don't want to do, all because of our choice to make certain decisions, and execute certain actions, that are working towards our goal. At the end of the day though, that's not our problem. Each and every one of us are responsible for our own happiness, and each and every one of us are accountable to the actions that are working towards our goals. They are no exception, be it your parents, your partner, your friends, your family, or whoever it may be. It's not as if we want to create friction and tension, especially with those who we love so dearly, but we are only given one shot at life, and each day we spend not working on creating the life of our desire, or working towards achieving our goals and happiness, becomes another day wasted.

Next comes superiority. Now I mean this in the way that some people love to take the higher road over us, believing that they are better than us, believing that they are more knowledgeable than us, believing they are more talented than us, believing they are wiser than us, and believing they are more experienced than us. Basically they believe their crap doesn't stink. Most of the time, they only believe all this, rather than it being actually the truth. So when we begin the journey towards achieving our goals, they believe they have the right to advise us on what we actions we should do, and what decisions we should make, maybe from what they have experienced, maybe from what they know, or maybe from what they believe they know. Absolutely we should all have a mentor in life, someone who has proven success, but even more importantly, someone who encourages us, motivates us, inspires us, supports us, and pushes us to keep striving for success. There are going to be people who are more experienced and knowledgeable than us, but it doesn't give them, nor anyone, the right to tell us how we should live our life. We are looking for support and guidance, not advice and instruction. Finally, there is embarrassment. It's sad, but many people will try and prevent us from achieving our goals and success, because they would feel foolish and embarrassed that we have proven that with hard work, perseverance, patience, and determination, success can indeed be achieved. They don't want to look silly that they don't commit to the same effort. They especially don't want us to succeed when they have given all their advice along the journey, and we have turned against their advice, and gone on to succeed. They would feel rather foolish, silly. and embarrassed indeed.

The aspect of turning away from the advice of others, following our heart in making our own decisions and actions, and then going on to succeed, doesn't just cause embarrassment to them, it can also offer us a great sense of pride. It's a wonderful feeling to accomplish something in the knowledge that we have done it by ourselves, that we have resisted all the pressure, criticism, opposition, and ridicule, that others have heaved upon us over the journey, to still have gone on to achieve success. This on top of the patience, perseverance, and resilience, we showed throughout. That takes great courage, character, and resolve. It's hard enough to stand up to those who dislike us, but it's a great deal harder to stand up to our friends, family, and loved ones. No matter what we decide or do, we will always have opposition. Not only will we have opposition though, we will also have doubters. There will be people who will have zero faith in our abilities and in our potential, and that's because the decisions we make, and actions we take, in order to achieve our goals, aren't normality to people. Society are like sheep, and they will follow what the majority of other people do, and believe in what the majority of other people believe in, because they don't want to be viewed as being different, nor do they want to be judged and criticized. Therefore, what the majority of people do and believe becomes classed as normality. Anybody who has ever embarked on the journey towards their goals, would well know that there are many decisions and actions needed to be made along the way, that are completely against the grain, and ones in which most other people wouldn't have the courage to do. The truth is, if you're following what most other people are doing in life, then it's a pretty clear indication that you're not on the path to significant success, or life changing triumph. Success comes from doing things differently, from being different.

Motivation and drive are two important attitudes to possess in order to achieve our goals and success in life. The goal itself should be the driving factor, that special something that we have such a strong internal attachment to, so great, that we would do anything to achieve it. We would make sacrifices, we would overcome all failures, we would battle through all challenges, and we would repel all opposition. Bar the goal itself though, there could be many other factors that motivate us, such as the fact we enjoy some of the tasks we are doing along the journey, and we are passionate about what we do. As confronting and disappointing that it may be to encounter opposition from others, when on the journey towards achieving our goals, especially when it's from our loved ones, we can actually use their doubt, criticism, and opposition, to spur us on to succeed even more. It's not a nice feeling to have our abilities and potential questioned and doubted, so to go about proving people wrong in their judgment of us, can end up being extremely rewarding and satisfying. Guaranteed that we will encounter several failures along the journey before we ever reach success. This is normal. Of course, each time we fail, those screams of doubt and criticism become all the more louder. To most people, the moment failure occurs, it becomes a clear indication that success cannot be achieved, a sign that it's just not meant to be, so the common reaction is to give up. These same people believe no different when it comes to witnessing other people fail also, therefore they will encourage others to quit also. That's quite sad really, because failure is never an indication that something isn't meant to be, or success is impossible, it's just a sign that the actions need to be tweaked or changed.

With people continually in our ears saying that we are destined for failure, we are wasting our time, we can't achieve the success we want, that we are flogging a dead horse, that we are making a fool of ourselves, and that we are just not good enough, it really should hit a nerve within us. Rather than view what these type of people say in such a negative and pessimistic light, we should completely turn around what they are saying, and accept it as a challenge. They don't believe we can do it, then our challenge is to prove them wrong. Let's face it, someone is going to look like a fool in the end. Whether it be you, after succumbing to failure, quitting the journey, and making their advice appear to be correct, or whether it be them, after you follow your heart, having remained committed to the decisions and actions that ended up leading you to success in reaching your goal. If you're going to commence the journey to achieving your goals in life, you've got to see it through, because if you don't, then you are going to look like a fool. Sure, you're going to cop it on the chin regularly, by failing time and time again, whilst others are criticizing you, but if you remain focused and committed to what you want to achieve, and maintain that determination, patience, perseverance, and resilience, then you're going to make a hell of a lot of people look foolish when you're there bathing in glory. That's not the name of the game by any means, it's not about making people look foolish, but we should use their doubt, criticism, and judgment of us, as motivation to work even harder. It's not about revenge for them not supporting us, or criticizing us, it's about achieving success with humility, even in having the knowledge within us, that we were right all along. So when someone doubts your abilities, someone is certain your destined for failure, and someone fails to believe you can possibly succeed, then fire up, work harder, accomplish your goal, and prove them wrong!

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