Only Human

Being naïve is normal. But there are consequences behind that. Pay close attention to what a person is saying. Words have more power than you think.

We all know that the sky is blue. From time to time, there is a full moon. But what we should know is that everything someone says is not always the truth. Even a salesman knows how to tell lies. Its up to you whether you fall for it or not.

You never know a person’s agenda. Everyone we meet either has good intentions or bad intentions. “That’s my friend.” Loose terms that we say all the time for people that we know for a fact have our best intentions at heart. “I thought he/she was my friend, I cant believe they did that.” That person knew their intentions from the start. Whether its months, weeks or years, they had a hidden agenda against you and they finally succeeded in doing their damage. Or at least they think they did. As long as you show that they did, that’s a 1-0 for them.

We sometimes can be naïve in relationships. So many people have been emotionally damaged for meeting a person that they put everything into. By everything, I mean trust, love, secrets that they never have shared with anyone else. A person with a hidden agenda will use that to their advantage because they see it as a sign of weakness.

People will take your kindness for weakness and run with it like a head on collision. At some point in life, we have to mature. Letting people tell you this, that and the third should be over with at a certain age. That’s just my opinion.

There are people out here who go through so much because they believed everything that someone told them. People get married and claim that they met someone else. Uh, no. You didn’t meet someone else. They’ve been there the entire time. You just didn’t want to get rid of the benefits attached to the person you were engaged to or in some cases, married to.

Money can be a motivator when it comes to being naïve. Some people will spend all their money on somebody and the person gives them nothing in return except an empty hand, a hole in their pocket and an “I’ll pay you back.” In my opinion, 90% of the time, “I’ll pay you back.” never happens. It only turns into a constant cycle. Analyze the situation. If this person cant pay me back, that’s different. But if they are constantly saying “I’ll pay you back.” and you see no results, then stop.

I have chased a few pipe dreams in my time but at 38, I finally realized that some things are just too good to be true. Its so hard for us to believe that. At some point, in a situation, you have to realize that its not going to work. No matter what the situation may be, how painful its going to be to let go, let go. You have already been through enough drama and broken promises. Why continue?

We have all chased pipe dreams. Especially with love. A person comes into our lives and tells us that they are going to make our lives better and promises us the world only for it to backfire. That hurts because we have believed everything this person has told us and then we find out different. That is a painful feeling that cant be explained.

But as they say, all that glitters is not gold, but you will eventually find that special “diamond in the ruff.”