Let go, only to gain

Some people look away, put down, and some people cling to half a life, but in turn, put themselves in the pit.

Most of the time, for those who can not walk the road, not the road is difficult to walk, but the people walking into a maze, one after another obsession in mind, forgetting that there is a road to walk.

I thought I could get what I wanted, but I didn't think I'd let myself live in my obsessions, which would only end up hurting me.

The original bright life slowly spoiled into no way to go.

Instead of being obsessed, you should learn to let go and start over.

1, let go of obsession to see a new way

Obsession is the mind can not let go of the thought, think that the thought will echo, but forget that the past is the past.

Like first love, in the eyes of most people is beautiful, but how many people want to renew their previous relationship after many years but the fantasy is shattered?

Perhaps after many years, the first love will inevitably change, but letting people's fantasy broken is too high expectations, in countless flashbacks in the glorification of that memory, to produce a powerful gap.

Instead of being nostalgic about that person, it is better to say that you have regrets.

The reason for this is that you can't get together and have regrets and obsessions.

But forget that time is a killing knife, the reality is always cruel than you think, can not let go of the obsession has become a cage of self, they can not go out, others can not come in, and finally will only trap themselves "dead".

Not the road is difficult to walk, but you can not quietly, think about how to go next.

Sometimes, not no way to go, but you are obsessed with "covering" the eyes, and can not see the road ahead.

So, let go of the obsession, perhaps it is a new beginning.

2, let go of expectations, reduce the sense of disparity

Although people are independent individuals, really can due to self-centeredness.

Most people care about how others see them, as a child expecting their parents to see their excellence, growing up expecting others to see their efforts, and after marriage expecting each other to see their pay ...... has been expected, but rarely met.

Because the more you look forward to it, the easier it is to magnify, to magnify things infinitely, and in the end will only make you more disappointed.

When you cut short hair as a child, are afraid that people say they boy's head, but in fact, noticing that you have long hair or short hair is not much, and even some people only after two or three months to find that you cut the hair.

The so-called fear, is not the expectation, worrying about being hurt, but forgetting that the expectation itself may be hurt.

Once the expectations fall short, a huge sense of disparity will cause great harm.

The higher the expectation, the greater the disappointment will be.

People can have expectations, but can not put too much, more than the "tipping point", the harm is their own.

Put down expectations, to reduce the gap, and return to their true selves.

3、Let go of the burden and find the beauty of life

The more you grow up, the heavier the burden on your shoulders.

Carrying the weight forward is the road that every adult must go through, only to endure the past, there will be a new beginning.

However, this does not mean that you have to pile all the stress on top of each other.

It is important to know that people's tolerance is limited, and how great can not carry all the pressure of a person.

Sometimes, it is inevitable that you need to share some of the easier parts, so that you can continue to persevere, otherwise more than normal people can load the category, and finally will only crush themselves.

It seems that life is crushing, but in reality, it's the fault of selflessness.

Obviously can not stand, but still do not know how to decompress, only care about a person gritting their teeth to persist, but forget that 100% of the power has to persist, not to mention the pressure is already being pressured by the people, the weight can not hold on, learn to put down.

When you can't go on, proper rest is to recharge yourself, rest enough to have the energy to continue to persevere.

Sometimes, put down the burden to find the beauty of life.