Learning From Your Insecurity

Visiting Myra, a friend who was babysitting ten-year-old Carla Evans, whose father Carlos was the same age as her. All of us are over fifty years old.

Carlos was a very handsome man who took great care of himself. He has been married and divorced four times to women much younger than himself. His girlfriend, Elicia, was half his age. She would wait in the car while he dropped and picked up Carla daily.

This morning, Myra had to retrieve something from her mailbox while Carlos was inside with his daughter.

The doorbell rang a minute after Myra entered. I answered it. A beautiful yoga body pushed past me and demanded, “Where is he?”

Shock held three pairs of eyes, and Carlos introduced, “Myra, her friend Anna, meet Elicia.”

“Nice to meet. . . . .” before I or anyone else could go on, she circled Myra with green eyes and began the kind of interrogation the FBI reserved for an Isis terrorist.

Shock muted Carlos, Carla, and my tongue. But Myra played that game like a pro.

When she finished her interrogation, Myra said, “I have been married for thirty years, and I have no intention of raising another husband because more than half of these men never grew up!” her eyes aimed at Carlos, who sighed deeply.

“So, young lady, turn around, go back outside and leave your nasty attitude and insecurity in that garbage bin at my gate. The sanitation truck doesn’t come until after midnight, so your trash will be there waiting for you when you return after you apologize and get the hell out of my house!”

She obeyed and returned, “I am so sorry. But how can you look younger than I am, and you are over fifty?”

“It’s easier than many of us think,” Myra enlightens. “I love myself. I take good care of myself like your man over there,” she pointed to Carlos, who was turning red.

“Plus, I know myself, and when you know yourself, no one can tell you who you are.”

Still, the silence was reigning between the three of us, when Elicia said, “I apologize again. I should be learning from you instead of allowing my insecurities and how you take care of your body to intimidate me.”

“As females, taking care of ourselves is taking care of everyone,” Myra continues to educate. “Allow no one and their bodies to intimidate you. Because no matter how great we look,” pointing at Carlos, “they still walk out of our lives for their own selfish reasons. And our tone youthful bodies, can’t live or last forever! Aging and life won’t allow that no matter how well we take care of ourselves!”

Her face transformed into several shades of colors before it regained its natural hue. Carlos got the message, and they left quickly.

Turning to Myra to congratulate her, “you would be perfect for the fire department. I love how you put out that fire without water!”

She laughed, and Carla, which we all had forgotten about, said, “you sure did, Aunt Myra. And you also turned her into a better person. Did you see the look on her face when you put her into her place!”

We stared at her in shock.

A woman who takes care of herself is strong.

A woman who knows herself is stronger.

A woman who loves herself is the strongest.

Insecurity is a tool we all should learn how to use effectively. As a weapon, it robs us of vital life lessons. Learn from the ones who you allow to intimidate you. Pull strength from their strength. Take confidence from their confidence and redefine yourself and your attitude. Then change your life and be who you want to be.

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