How you deal with adversity determines how you live your life

I went out for an interview with a colleague who was a well-known travel photographer. We set out immediately after lunch, expecting to arrive ahead of time, but we were caught in a traffic jam and arrived half an hour late.

On the way, we imagined the worst that could happen to us. But to our surprise, when we arrived at the hotel, we found him not angry, but quietly sitting on the windowsill, making tea and inviting us to sit down. He looks ordinary, but his eyes are kind, and his speech is gentle and appropriate, which makes people like spring breeze.

He said that when he graduated, he also worked for a newspaper and gradually fell in love with photography. When I was free after work, I went to my friend's photo studio as a helper and taught myself professional knowledge.

He once walked from Sichuan province to Lhasa for scenery. Encountering the wolves at night, I was already discouraged and thought I was going to die. But when he saw a flash of fire in the distance, he cried out for help and was narrowly saved by a local man on patrol with his hounds.

"If I had accepted my fate and missed the light," he told us, "I might not be here today."

Later, he encountered many other difficulties, and whenever he wanted to give up, he remembered that night's flight in the mud. Finally, with a clench of his teeth and a stamp of his foot, he went on.

Such a life lasted for five years, during which he participated in many domestic photography competitions and began to be famous in the circle. Then, to expand his horizons, he began to travel the world. He has been to dozens of countries and his works have frequently appeared on the world stage.

At the end of the interview, he said meaningfully to us: "Reality is like a quagmire. Some choose to muddle along, while others cross the quagmire and face the distance. If you want to escape the mire, you have to strive to be good."

There are no obstacles in life that cannot be overcome. There are only people that cannot be overcome.

In her senior year, Xiaolan failed in the postgraduate entrance examination. She was depressed all day, did not want to find internship work and did not open her graduation thesis. She was depressed every day and sent some negative energy dynamics in the circle of friends.

I couldn't bear to see her like this, so I sent a message on wechat to comfort her, saying, "In this life, there are always obstacles that seem insurmountable. But if you stay where you are, wallowing in frustration, you'll never grow."

The next day, we met. She explained that she was determined to take the postgraduate entrance exam because she wanted to teach at a university in the future. But I am not reconciled to why others can pass the exam but I can not complete it.

I told her that since you have purpose and clarity, the current failure is just a temporary setback. People in this life, not everything can be good, we have to learn to face those sudden adversity.

When I checked my moments at home, I saw her post: "If you have a dream, you have to protect it."

A year has passed. Just a few days ago, Xiaolan passed the second-round postgraduate exam of her favorite university and called me to thank me for encouraging her a year ago. In fact, it is not a kind of incentive to their own.

I like this line: "The night gave me black eyes, but I use them to find the light". Life is the same, even in adversity, can not lose the yearning for the future. Understand that turnaround is often in the hands of those who strive to improve, and only step by step, you can get out of the mud under your feet.

Not long ago, I attended an Internet entrepreneurship sharing conference and heard an interesting word called "adversity business". Said that sometimes, the measure of a person's height, not IQ, eq how high, but how tough adversity quotient. Adversity business high people, often can take adversity as a motivation to move forward. So, to some extent, how you deal with adversity will determine how far you go in life.

The world is not fair, some people are born poor, some are born rich. What you work for all your life, for some people, may be just the starting point. But so what, is this the reason why you degenerate, choose to escape, punish yourself with the superiority of others?

This is a time of uncertainty and opportunity, and counterattacks are happening all the time. Some become famous by writing and become bestselling authors. Some people raise millions of dollars right away with a novel idea. Some people get rich by opening online shops, crossing the so-called class barrier......

We see others shining at the same time, also want to believe in the power of self struggle. If you don't force yourself to face the reality and the cruelty of setbacks, you will never know how good you can be.

Running away will not solve the problem and will only exacerbate it. No matter what the situation is, I hope you can do the right thing in front of you. I hope you can step on the mud and focus on the bright side.