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HOW TO START A NEW LIFE

REDISCOVER YOUR HAPPINESS

By Kehinde Oladejo Published about a year ago 9 min read
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Sometimes our lives don't turn out the way we expected.

As children, we fantasize about THE LIFE WE WOULD LIKE TO LIVE. We imagine being able to work remotely from anywhere in the world, doing our dream job, and raising our dream family.

Then we mature and realize that adulthood isn't always as simple as it appears.

Doesn't that sound familiar?

Perhaps your dream job turned out to be a nightmare, with long hours that interfere with your work/life balance and demands that cause stress at home.

Perhaps the person you thought would be "the one" turned out to be a stumbling block on your path to happiness, and you're now doubting your relationship.

What you need to do is start over.

Sometimes a fresh start is all you need to identify what isn't making you happy and take steps toward a better you.

It's a Wonderful Thing to Create a New You.

Have you ever started a project only to realize halfway through that you made a mistake?

You can either try to adapt to the error and continue building, or you can disassemble everything and start over.

The decision to begin a new life is all about returning to the drawing board with a positive attitude.

You apply what you've learned over the last few months and years to your new happiness strategy.

Making the decision to start over means:

You can learn from your previous failures and mistakes without allowing them to hold you back. Look for learning opportunities in your mistakes, but don't dwell on them.

You become better by making the conscious decision to pursue your desires. You're not content with what you have right now. You're working hard to achieve your objectives.

You get to go on a journey of discovery, discovering what truly works for you and makes you happy.

How to Begin a New Life in 12 Simple Steps

So, how do you get started on a new life?

1. Create a list

Assume you intend to create a new business website, complete with a new SEO strategy.

You wouldn't throw out everything you've learned about website development up to this point and start from scratch. You'd examine the current website to see what works and what doesn't, and then plan from there.

If you're looking to start a new life, consider what you like and dislike about your current one. Perhaps a list of what you currently enjoy, such as your relationship or your home, and what you don't, such as your stressful job and annoying boss.

While you're making your list of what you want and don't want in your new life, consider what's actually realistic for you. For example, you may be dissatisfied with the fact that you don't have much money in your savings account right now.

2. Look for lessons that you can take with you.

One of the most common mistakes people make when starting a new life is to forget about their past or to brush negative experiences under the rug.

Sure, we've all had bad experiences that we'd rather forget. However, you must ensure that you are not passing up an opportunity for advancement.

The lessons you learned in your previous life could be extremely useful in motivating you to achieve your new objectives.

Examine your errors and ask yourself what went wrong.

And don't fall into the trap of blaming your problems on someone or something else. Rather, concentrate on what you could have done differently and how you plan to achieve your objectives.

3. Choose what to tackle first.

Now that you've examined your past, what you've done wrong, and what you truly desire from life, it's time to act.

Determine what you'll work on first. If you're dissatisfied with your relationship, your job, or your living situation, you might not be able to deal with all of them at once. Begin with the one that is currently having the greatest impact on your life.

For example, is your relationship or living situation suffering as a result of the additional stress you're experiencing at work? To find out, look into your current situation.

4. Gather some courage.

It's time to train your brain for success once you've decided what you're going to work on first.

It's normal to be nervous about venturing into unknown territory. But don't let your fear paralyze you. Try:

Deconstruct your fears: Consider what you're concerned about and whether your concerns are realistic. For example, you may believe that if you leave this job, you will never find another, but this is highly unlikely.

Imagining your future: Use your ideal image of the ideal future to motivate you and get you started on the path to success.

Making a mantra: When you begin to feel scared or nervous, say something to yourself that will help you gain confidence, such as "I can overcome this." "I am deserving of the life I desire."

5. Locate the impediments

There will be some obstacles in your path to success.

If you rush forward blindly and hit an obstacle, you're more likely to become stuck, feeling as if you can't move forward.

However, if you can identify the potential roadblocks, you can devise a strategy to overcome them.

For example, if you are afraid of not being able to leave the rat race, seek funding to start your own business. Then, before quitting your day job, go do some research on what's available.

6. Get over your fear of setbacks.

Have you ever heard that the only thing to fear is fear?

That's usually the case when you're looking for a fresh start in life.

You have no idea what lies ahead, and you're almost certainly convinced that you'll make mistakes again. Accepting that you might be correct is the best way to overcome that fear.

It is difficult to figure out how to start a new life for yourself. You're going to make errors. What matters is how you choose to move on from your mistakes.

How are you going to react if you make a mistake? Will you let it derail your progress or will you learn from it?

7. Start pushing yourself out of your comfort zone.

One of the most common reasons people end up living lives they are unhappy with is a lack of knowledge about how to step outside of their comfort zones.

Here's the catch: You can't say "I want to start a new life" while being completely unwilling to change anything about your current situation.

You live your life based on fear rather than what you want if you are afraid to take risks. Taking the right risks can completely change your life.

If you don't take risks, you're basically guaranteeing that nothing will change - for the better or for the worse. Challenging your comfort zones with small, manageable risks will get you started in the right direction.

For example, you may not be ready to change jobs right now, but you can practice saying "no" to your boss when he offers extra work.

8. Create a support group.

You need the right support if you want to start a new life.

Although your own motivation and drive will get you most of the way there, you can only go so far on your own.

Figuring out how to start over in life is a difficult process that most people will not be able to complete without some emotional support.

Examine the people in your immediate environment to determine which ones have a positive impact on your life.

Family and friends who are always there for you will assist you in starting a new life the way you want. Toxic people who try to hold you back, like the things you disliked about your previous life, must be left behind.

9. Control your emotions

If you want to learn how to start over in life, you'll need a way to deal with the overwhelming emotions that can overwhelm you.

For example, you could try a few minutes of morning meditation at the start of each day to give you the laser focus you need to achieve your goals.

If you've been through a lot, it might be beneficial to talk to a therapist and work with a professional to develop some emotional management strategies.

When you're feeling overwhelmed, you could go for a run to burn off some adrenaline.

What makes you happy?

10. Take command.

This may seem strange, but many of us live our lives as if we were a passive character in our own story. You, on the other hand, are the protagonist of your world, and it is up to you to take control and ownership of your life.

Determine what you can and cannot control in your environment.

For example, you have no control over how others perceive you as a friend or coworker. You can, however, pay attention to the kinds of things your colleagues say about you that seem a little "standoffish."

Look for things you can own as you embark on a new life and begin to shape a new you. After all, this is your journey.

11. Be aware of your dreams

If you've ever felt unfulfilled in life and don't know where you're going wrong, it might be time to dive into your subconscious and examine what's going on.

You could, for example, keep a dream journal to go over your thoughts first thing in the morning.

If you have recurring dreams, it could be a sign that your brain is trying to communicate with you about what you actually require.

It's also worth considering your dreams from a different angle. For example, what kind of future do you envision for yourself, and which of your goals are actually attainable? Are there any dreams you need to let go of?

12. Pay more attention

Finally, people undervalue the importance of mindfulness. However, if you want to start a new life, you must first pay more attention.

Be mindful of how you feel in any given moment, as well as the things in your life for which you should be grateful.

You can even incorporate some meditation into your routine to help you focus more directly on the areas of your body that are holding the most stress.

Mindfulness will assist you in determining which issues in your life have the greatest impact on your happiness, allowing you to make an active decision to move in the right direction.

Take Control of Your Life

Making the decision to start a new life is difficult, but it can be extremely beneficial to your future if done correctly.

We believe you will only have one chance to live your life according to your guidelines. So go ahead and do it your way.

Although it can be difficult to take that first step into the unknown, learning how to start a new life may mean that you finally achieve the happiness you deserve.

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