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How To Forgive People Who Hurt You

This is an article to help you forgive people who hurt you. It also includes a personal story of how one person dealt with the anger and hurt they felt after being betrayed by someone close to them.

By Ayesha AmjadPublished 2 years ago 3 min read
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How To Forgive People Who Hurt You
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• Forgiving the people who hurt me

1. Decide if you want to forgive the person who hurt you. This is a personal decision that only you can make. If you decide that you want to forgive the person, then take some time to think about why you want to forgive them. What are your reasons for forgiving them?

2. Try to understand why the person hurt you. This can be difficult, but it is important to try to see things from their perspective. Why do you think they did what they did? What were their motivations?


3. Accept that the hurtful event happened and that it cannot be changed. Dwelling on what happened will only make it harder to forgive. Try to focus on the present and the future instead of dwelling on the past.

4. Forgive yourself for any role you may have played in the event. It is important to remember that we are all human and we all make mistakes. Forgiving yourself will help you move on from what happened.


5. Talk to the person who hurt you and tell them that you forgive them. This can be a difficult conversation, but it can be helpful in moving on from what happened. It is also important to remember that forgiveness is not always easy.

• How to avoid the cycle of anger

1. It’s important to avoid the cycle of anger when someone has hurt you. This means not dwell on the hurt and instead focus on forgiveness.

2. Forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting what happened or Excusing the behavior. It just means that you’re no longer angry about it and you’ve moved on.


3. Try to see things from the other person’s perspective. Empathy will help you to understand why they may have acted the way they did, even if it doesn’t excuse their behavior.

4. Don’t bring up the hurt when you’re arguing with the person who hurt you. This will only make the situation worse and make it harder to forgive them.


5. Talk to a trusted friend or family member about what happened and how you’re feeling. This can help you to process your emotions and start to forgive the person who hurt you.

• Steps for forgiving someone

1. Acknowledge what happened. It’s important to acknowledge the hurt that you feel. This will help you to start the process of forgiving the person who hurt you.

2. Try to understand why the person acted the way they did. It can be helpful to try to understand why the person hurt you. This can help you to see things from their perspective and start to forgive them.


3. Let go of your anger and resentment. Forgiving someone doesn’t mean that you have to forget what happened or that you have to be friends with them. It just means that you let go of your anger and resentment towards them.

4. Wish them well. Once you’ve forgiven the person who hurt you, it’s important to wish them well. This doesn’t mean that you have to have a relationship with them, but it does mean that you hope they find happiness in their life.

• Real life examples
1. George Washington once said, “I hope I shall always possess firmness and virtue enough to maintain what I consider the most enviable of all titles, the character of an honest man.” People will make mistakes, it is only human nature. What defines us as people is how we handle those mistakes.
2. We do not have to like the person who hurt us, but by forgiving them we are letting go of the anger and pain that they caused us. Studies have shown that holding on to anger and resentment can actually be harmful to our health.
3. It is important to forgive people because it sets us free from the past and allows us to move on with our lives. When we forgive, we are no longer a victim of what happened to us. Instead, we become empowered and can choose how we want to react to the situation.
4. Forgiving someone does not mean that you have forgotten what they did or that you condone their actions. It simply means that you have chosen to let go of the anger and pain that they caused you.


• Conclusion
Forgiving those who have hurt you can be difficult, but it is important to remember that forgiveness is a choice. You can choose to forgive someone, even if they do not deserve it. Forgiveness can help you to move on from the hurt and pain that they have caused you. It can also help to improve your mental and emotional health. If you are struggling to forgive someone, there are many resources available to help you.

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