How Oversharing Can Impede Personal Growth

Social media has made it so easy for any person to share information with whoever may be following or connected to them. It’s almost as if we made numerous New Years Resolutions on a daily basis and simply shared them with the public. While this action alone may not be detrimental to the process of personal growth, it surely can play a hand in the downfall of your goals.

Not all forms of accountability are created equal. If you were to compare your viewing audience to that of a High School, you may be able to see how your declarations would be hazardous to your growth. Taking everyone at face value, you may feel well supported and embraced in your journey. Whether it’s online, in the workforce or even just in personal relationships, it’s important to know the following two bits of information:

More often than not, there will be many people who don’t have your best interests at heart.

There will always be as many people looking for your downfall as there are people rooting on your success.

The 21/90 Rule

According to the 21/90 rule, it takes 21 days to build a habit. After this habit is developed, continuing the process for another 90 days should allow you to adopt it fully into your routine and psyche. Conversely, it takes roughly about 3 days to break that habit. It will always be easier to change for the worse or impede your growth than it is to follow through with your goals.

The key to seeing change and growth in your life is to make the best decisions for yourself on a daily basis. What may seem like the smallest “no” today may turn out to be the biggest component of your long-term success. This principle can reflect on any task or challenge you choose to set for yourself.

How Accountability Helps Counter Oversharing

Confiding in specific individuals to help you maintain a certain level of accountability and focus is a great way to stay the course of growth and goal achievement. Accountability is great when you need others to come together to help pull you out of the ruts of laziness, complacency, unproductivity, and self-doubt.

Once the world knows your secrets and goals, there is simply no turning back. What you may have intended to be for self-motivation and social awareness can very well be a primary source of shame and discontent. In a world where we are so attacked by instant gratification and moral victories, the idea that you may need to devote time and patience to see your goals come into fruition can prove extremely demoralizing.

As I have been able to convert my short-term successes into long-term solutions, I have quite often led myself into a better place for it. Ultimately, that is the goal — to not just be a better me, but to find myself in a state of consistent contentment because of it.