Focus on Change

I am writing this to inspire you and to help me. My head feels very much like a loft full of boxes. Some boxes contain junk that I need to clear out, whilst others may contain fascinating relics of usefulness. I am using this outlet to help get my thoughts on to (digital) paper, because to be quite frank I have no room for any more boxes. My emotion in its current state seems to be defaulted to glum which is far too close to sad for my liking. I want to go on a journey of change allowing my mind to reset itself and desensitise. My sub-conscience mind was created as a child, my parent's mindset was unknowingly passed on to me. My conscious mind hadn't developed enough to filter out the negativity that has now embedded itself into my being. My parents struggled through life and thought money didn't grow on trees blah blah blah.

I lacked encouragement, drive and positivity during my 80s childhood, so it's time to install those attributes now. In my new world money does grow on trees I just need to reach up and take as much as I want. I choose to be happy!

So how am I going to achieve this? One thing I have learnt recently is that as humans, we never seem to be satisfied; we are always striving for the things we don’t have instead of feeling abundant with the things that we do. If I was to treat life like a mountain—instead of looking up at the treacherous steep climb ahead I am going to enjoy the view from where I am. I am going to be proud of my achievements and be grateful for the love in my heart.

I have realised that to become happy I need to consciously make that decision. I need to make it every day! As I mentioned previously, if I leave it to the autopilot I will be set to glum. I am 37 years of age and it's October 2019, evidently (hopefully) I still have a lot of life yet to live, and I want to be happy living it. I need to sweep out the worry, clear out the cobwebs of doubt, dread, and disappointment and focus only on the positives in my life. Let me apologise before I go on. Most blog posts of this nature tend to be tuitional, saying that you should do this and more of that, but I am not going to do that because A) I'm not qualified and B) your life is totally different to mine. The key word here is change.

I have been told that the minds that we possess are the most powerful tools on the planet. How does that make you feel when you read that sentence—read it again! Do you believe it? If you realised how powerful your thoughts are, you’d never think a negative thought again. Going forward this is going to be my ethos: If a negative thought enters my head, I am going to replace it with a positive one.

To change I need to make some decisions that are going to be tough to uphold. We have all seen the self-help slogans plastered all over Facebook and Pinterest. I find them annoying too, but do they hold some truth? Ever heard of the law of attraction? This may be something you should look up as it is quite literally mind-blowing. I shan't dwell on that in this post but that way of thinking was the inspiration behind writing this.

I am going to start by understanding myself and becoming a better me. I am going to commit myself to these rules.

Stop wasting time—I am never going to put off a job that needs doing. I am going to only use the TV, computers, games, and social media when the rest of my priorities are in order.

Stop wasting money—Change my mindset on money and become a saver and investor, rather than a big-time spender.

Read more—I need to learn more; the content of those boxes in my mind need to be replaced with useful knowledge.

Introduce Meditation—Out of the four, this is the most important and yet it's probably the one I am least likely to do. I will give it a try because it is a crucial exercise for the mind and body, that is the whole point of everything, it's what ties it all together.

These are things that I have already begun to do and I am already seeing the benefits. Pushing out negative thoughts and getting jobs done has certainly made me feel happier. I really do hope that you can relate to my ramblings—let me know!