A Guide to Happiness

Happy. Feeling content. Showing pleasure, being carefree. There are many many definitions of staying happy, but they don't apply to everyone. For a lot of people out there, as well as myself, it can be hard to find a reason to stay happy. There can be so many things that can come in the way of our happiness, and it sucks. We don't have any control over our emotions, for example, when you hear about something happy, your initial reaction is excitement and joy but if you get sad news, or something goes wrong it can make you very sad. I think of our lives as an emotional roller coaster. Sometimes its going up, but sometimes it's going way down. But fear not, I'm here to tell you five ways you can stay happy, no matter what. :) Now this is just a guide, it may not help you, but you may find it helpful. This is just what I think might help you.

Stop chasing whatever you think will make you happy, and start living in the now. Many people out there feel like 'I need this' or 'I need to do that' to make them happy. Instead of actually enjoying life, they chase the idea of what they think is happiness. Even when you think you have everything that can make you happy, no matter what, you'll still have your ups and downs. We always try and find that one negative thing to make us miserable. Wanting something is fine, but stop chasing it and start living your life, and everything you want will automatically come to you.

So, we often tend to blame other people, such as our family or close friends, for the problems we go through. But life is full of people with different personalities and in different situations. You just have to find a way to separate the good from the bad, because no one is perfect! So instead of finding ways to blame someone else for your problems, focus on what you can do to make it better, because in the end, that is all that matters. It is your responsibility—and always will be—to make yourself happy, not anyone else.

These days, we have become so involved in social media, video games, etc., that we have become addicted. When we're not on our phones, or playing Fortnite, for example, we feel like we have run out of stuff to do. But that's not true. Sometime, someday we have to get over this addiction, and enjoy what life is really all about. Appreciate how the sky looks when the sun is setting, go out for a walk and appreciate the nature. Spend time with the people you love and cherish those moments. Enjoying all these things, experiencing these things is the best form of happiness, and will always give you new reasons to be and stay happy.

Start taking action. Start being responsible. If someone is showing you attitude, be straight up and tell them. You want to losing weight? Start working out. Want to eat healthier? Set a new diet, a meal plan, etc. The list goes on. Teach yourself, and commit and dedicate yourself to finding happiness, no matter how long it takes. Because one day, you'll find it, and it'll all be worth it. With enough hard work and motivation, you'll be able to create the life you want.

Our expectations are always set really high. We always expect someone to treat us better than we treat them. We see someone on social media and begin to think that we can live up to that too. Although you can achieve anything, you always have to work for it. It is never put into your hands. We need to accept life as it is. Stop setting that mindset of 'what should be,' and just accept that it's okay to be in the place you are. When you start living without claiming something you want to be yours, or what you think is your right, every good thing that comes to you will always be a nice surprise. Expecting nothing ultimately means never being disappointed. SO, at the end of the day, we will always hit a few speed bumps, but we're only human, and that's okay. You'll always have your highs and lows, but you learn from every mistake and every success and make yourself better. That's what defines who you are.