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9 Ways to Love Yourself More — Even If You Don't Think You Deserve It

Start building self-love with these ideas

By Wendy MillerPublished 2 years ago 5 min read
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9 Ways to Love Yourself More — Even If You Don't Think You Deserve It
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People often struggle with self-love, but it's one of the most important things we can do for ourselves. Self-love is about finding confidence in yourself and your abilities. It can be hard to know where to start, though. Some people find it easier to love themselves if they have more active social lives or are healthier. Others find that self-love improves when they start practicing hobbies that they love. No matter what works best for you, here are 9 ways to start loving yourself more right now.

Start with what you have

It's important to start with what you have. If you don't think you're worth something, start with something small. Try to write down 3 good things about yourself every day. Write down what you're grateful for. Tell yourself you love and accept yourself. It's about taking the time for yourself and really learning to like and love who you are.

It's not always easy to love yourself, but the process starts with you.

Recognize your strength

When it comes to self-love, it's important to recognize your strengths and not your weaknesses. Everyone has something they're good at. You may not be as good at math as someone else, but you could be really good at drawing. It's important to recognize your strengths and feel confident in them.

Once you start to recognize and appreciate your strengths, the rest of the world will too. You'll notice that people start treating you differently and that you can do more things because you know what you're capable of.

If you’re struggling with self-love, it’s time to start recognizing what you’re good at and find a way to enjoy those things. You deserve to be happy and love yourself.

Recognize your beauty

You might not think of your beauty as something you should love yourself for, but it is an important part of how you see yourself. Being confident in your appearance, whether it's your body or the way you dress, will make you feel more confident.

There are many ways to find your sense of beauty. You could start by looking at what your favorite celebrities look like. They might not be the most "perfect" celebrities out there, but they are confident in their appearance and you should be too.

Another way to start loving your beauty is to pick up a new hobby. Try something new like taking up painting or learning how to do makeup. Doing activities that you enjoy will help you feel beautiful and confident.

No matter what, remember that you are beautiful and worthy of love.

Recognize your intelligence

One of the best ways to start loving yourself more is to recognize what you do well and what intelligence you have. You can start by asking yourself, “What am I the best at?”

This may seem like a simple question, but it can be difficult to answer. If you struggle to come up with an answer, try looking at your family and friends. What do they like about you? What are your personality traits? What are your best qualities?

If you're still struggling, try looking at your past accomplishments. What are some of your proudest moments? It can be difficult to see your own worth, but it's important to remember that everyone has value.

It's time to start loving yourself. Remember that you are worthy of love. Start by recognizing what you've done well and what makes you special.

Recognize your body

Love what you see. We spend so much time criticizing our bodies in the mirror, or viewing them with disdain. It's important to recognize your body- flaws and all- for what it is: a beautiful, well-functioning machine.

Consider this: If you had to replace your body with a robot, would you be able to distinguish it from yourself? Of course not. You are your body. All of it. It's not perfect, but it doesn't need to be. It needs to be loved.

Begin by treating your body like an honored guest. Give it plenty of water, healthy food, and plenty of rest. Appreciate your body's natural ability to heal itself, and take care of it so that it can do so more easily. Think about how much it does for you, and all the things you can do because of it. The idea is not to lose sight of the human in the human-machine, but to appreciate both just the same.

Recognize your worth

You are important. You are worth it. You are enough. These are things you should tell yourself every day. You are deserving of love, respect, and kindness. You are more than your mistakes. You are more than your flaws.

Start by taking some time to think about all the wonderful things about you. Your talents, your skills, your interests, your accomplishments, and your passions. Then, spend some time on yourself. Do something that makes you happy—whether it’s shopping for clothes or reading a book. Spend time with people who make you happy, and remove people from your life who don’t. Start practicing self-care, which includes taking time for yourself every day to recharge your energy levels.

No matter what you do, you deserve love. You deserve love from others, and most importantly, love from yourself.

Recognize your potential

Start by recognizing your potential and the things you’re capable of. We all have strengths and weaknesses and it’s important to focus on the things we do well. That’s not easy for all of us, but when we can see our potential, it’s easier to love ourselves.

For instance, if you’re good at math and science, you might be interested in pursuing a career in engineering or computer science. You could also volunteer to help other people in your community who need it. Focusing on your strengths and what you can offer the world will make it easier to love yourself.

Recognize your voice

One of the best ways to love yourself more is to learn to recognize your voice. This might mean finding a voice that resonates with you and feels like your own, or it might mean learning how to speak up for yourself and assert yourself.

No matter what it means for you, this is an important first step. You can practice your voice by speaking up more and asking for what you want.

It could also mean learning how to express your feelings and needs without fear of judgment or rejection. It might be as simple as coming up with a list of descriptive words that you identify with and then calling yourself those words. You can also start to recognize the voice of others as well as the things they're saying about themselves.

Recognize your uniqueness

One of the most important things you can do for yourself is to recognize your uniqueness. What makes you different from everyone else? What makes you special?

Your uniqueness is what makes you who you are. Knowing this for sure will help you love yourself more.

No matter what, do not compare yourself to others. This is the fastest way to undervalue yourself.

You are unique in your own way, so celebrate it!

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Wendy Miller

Wendy Miller is a freelance writer & mom coach. Her work has appeared on Her Track, Tiny Beans & Medium. From parenting to relationships, she presents the best tips, advice, and information for life.

mindfulsinglemom.com | writewithwendy.com

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