5 Types Of Boundaries that will Empower your Energy
Standing firm so you don’t get burned
Do you feel drained after talking to certain people?
Do you also get angry or frustrated when people cross your boundaries and don't apologize?
Wish someone had taught you about setting boundaries earlier?
You are not alone. Many people have trouble establishing healthy boundaries.
Boundaries are how you communicate your needs and let others know what they can expect from you.
Boundaries are the limits we set on what we will and will not do. They help us to stay focused and on track.
They help us to say "no" when we need to and proceed to claim our power.
When we set and maintain healthy boundaries, we are more likely to achieve our goals.
Having healthy boundaries also helps you to protect your energy so you can more easily enjoy your life and the people you share it with.
Over the years I had trouble setting boundaries. There were so many times where I said yes to things when I actually wanted to say no.
My lack of respect for myself allowed me to learn hard lessons in life. Times when I was taken advantage of or taken for a ride because I did not reside within my own power and principles.
Making casual commitments without truly connecting to the other person. This was usually out of fear of judgment and the desire to please.
Here are some types of boundaries it might behoove you to start setting:
1. Physical Boundaries
Physical boundaries are the limits of one's body. They are the lines which delineate where one person ends and another begins.
Physical boundaries can be firm or flexible, depending on the situation.
They can be crossed, but only with explicit consent.
Physical boundaries can provide a sense of safety and security, as well as a sense of personal space and autonomy.
Respecting physical boundaries is an important part of interacting with others in a respectful and consensual manner.
● You should always be comfortable with the amount of physical contact you're receiving from others.
● If you're not comfortable with the level of physical contact, make it known to the other person.
● Always be aware of your personal space and don't let others invade it without your consent.
● If someone does invade your personal space, don't be afraid to speak up and ask them to back off.
● Remember that you have the right to set your own physical boundaries and don't let anyone else control them for you.
2. Emotional Boundaries
Emotional boundaries are the limits that we set in order to protect ourselves from being overwhelmed or taken advantage of by others.
They help us to manage our own emotions and to keep our relationships healthy and balanced.
Without emotional boundaries, we can end up feeling used, abused, or taken for granted.
We all need to have healthy emotional boundaries in order to maintain our sanity and our self-respect.
If you find yourself always giving more than you receive, or if you feel like you are always the one being taken advantage of, it might be time to take a look at your emotional boundaries.
● It is important to be honest with yourself about what you are feeling. It is important to be clear with others about what you are and are not comfortable with.
● It is important to set boundaries with others and stick to them.
● It is important to be assertive in communicating your needs and wants.
● It is important to be respectful of others' emotional boundaries as well.
3. Time Boundaries
Time boundaries are those things that we set in order to manage our time more effectively.
They help us to better utilize our time by organizing it into manageable chunks.
Time boundaries can be as simple as setting aside an hour each day to work on a project.
By setting time boundaries, we can more easily accomplish our goals and avoid feeling overwhelmed by our time commitments.
Time boundaries can help us to better balance our time between work, family, and leisure activities.
● Make sure you have a clear understanding of your own time boundaries before talking to others about them.
● Be assertive and direct when communicating your time boundaries to others.
● Be willing to negotiate and compromise on time boundaries when necessary.
● Be consistent in enforcing your time boundaries with others.
● Be understanding and flexible when others need to set their own time boundaries with you.
4. Material and Financial Boundaries
Material boundaries are the physical limits of our bodies.
Financial boundaries are the limits we set on how we spend our money.
We need to respect both our own and others' material and financial boundaries.
Overstepping material or financial boundaries can lead to hurt feelings or conflict.
It's important to communicate our material and financial boundaries to others.
● It is important to be clear about your own financial goals and needs. You should not feel pressured to spend or save in a way that does not align with your values.
● You have the right to say “no” to any financial request or demand that makes you feel uncomfortable.
● It is okay to ask questions and seek clarification when it comes to financial matters.
● You should always feel free to walk away from any situation in which you do not feel comfortable with the financial arrangement.
5. Intellectual Boundaries
Intellectual boundaries are the limits of what we can know or understand.
They define what we can and cannot think about, and determine how we process information.
Intellectual boundaries can be personal, cultural, or historical.
They can be fluid, shifting as we learn new information or have new experiences.
Intellectual boundaries can be constraining, but they can also be liberating, opening up new ways of thinking and understanding.
● Be clear and specific about what you will and will not discuss with others.
● Do not allow others to pressure you into discussing topics that you are uncomfortable with.
● Respect the intellectual boundaries of others and do not try to force them to share more than they are comfortable with.
● Be willing to walk away from conversations that make you feel uncomfortable or violated.
● Trust your instincts and do not hesitate to assert your boundaries if you feel like they are being crossed.
Today my personal boundaries are that I do not allow others to physically or emotionally drain me.
When I sense that this is taking place, I’ve learned better how to protect myself.
People will see you how you see yourself, and respect your time if you do the same.
The more we work on self-worth, the less we wind up being doormats for others to walk on.
Thanks for reading! I trust you were able to learn some better tactics for yourself and mental health. Comment down below your favorite ways of setting boundaries.
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