4 Habits of Emotionally Strong people

Emotions are defined as energy in motion. Being an emotionally strong person doesn’t mean you don’t have painful feelings & emotions, but it means you have a healthy relationship with them. I am always surprised when people say that being emotionally strong is a matter of luck, while it isn’t true. Some people are naturally optimistic, and some don’t have the genes to feel very anxious over little things.

It is always a matter of habits and learned behaviors that make you emotionally weak or strong. Luckily, there are some practices (Habits) you can adopt to be an emotionally strong person. Before we move ahead, let me clear some misconceptions about emotional strength.

•Being Emotionally Strong doesn’t mean you never get anxious or feel emotionally drained. It means you deeply understand your emotions and feeling associated with them, and you manage them quite nicely.

•It doesn’t mean you never get sad. Emotions are a basic necessity which makes us a human being. Being an emotionally strong person means you realize that sadness is a part of our lives, and you don’t go hard on yourself for being sad.

I am always curious why people get so hard on their selves when they are sad. I mean, it’s natural and normal to feel low at some time. They keep criticizing and judging themselves. This kind of approach leads them to be caught in the cycle of self-doubt, which badly affects their self-esteem, self-confidence, and the quality of their lives.

Now, let’s move toward the habits of emotionally strong people. You can also practice the following behaviors to improve your emotional strength.

1- They let go of useless thoughts

Emotionally Strong people know every thought which randomly pops up in our mind doesn’t necessarily mean to be true. Emotionally strong people keep their thoughts at a balanced pace to keep their emotions at a balanced pace. They are experts in letting go of useless and worrying thoughts.

As human beings, we can think, making us the smartest and the most intelligent race on planet earth. As you guys might have read, the famous spider-man’s principle from the comic book With Great Powers Comes Great Responsibilities.

Nature has given us the power to think. When we think systematically, we do find solutions to our problems. And, when we leave our thinking patterns on an auto-pilot mode, we can’t even find a single solution to our problems, and we end up messing with our emotions and feelings.

However, it is not always easy to let go of unhelpful or useless thoughts. It requires some time to learn this particular behavior (of letting go of vain thoughts). Over time, the behavior of allowing shots of unhelpful thoughts will become your habit. And, this habit will help you manage your thoughts, emotions, and feelings, which will improve your emotional strength.

Some tips for mastering the art of letting go of unhelpful or useless thoughts

• Be logical with your vain thoughts

• Be as objective as possible to view your thoughts

• Know the fact that it is temporary

• Rationalize your thoughts and see every single possibility out there

And always remember that “Thoughts and feelings associated are temporary.”

2- They accept painful feelings

No matter how skilled a person is at letting go of useless thoughts, he will still feel sad, anxious, and uncomfortable with his emotion which is normal. Emotionally Strong people accept their painful feelings because they know the fact that what we resist persists.

Emotions are just signs of danger and growth. Emotions (for example, fear) come with a warning to keep you safe from physical and psychological pain. When you try to escape your emotions, you tell your brain to think that emotions are also dangerous, which creates more complicated problems.

A person who tries harder to escape painful emotions is the one who intensifies them. Therefore, running from your painful emotions is not the solution.

Some tips for managing your painful emotions

• When you get sad, remind yourself that being sad is normal and a part of life. Everyone gets sad. Don’t judge or criticize yourself for being sad.

• When you are afraid, remind yourself, it is pretty normal. Everyone gets worried sometimes. Just because your mind thinks that something is dangerous doesn’t mean it is.

• When you get angry, remind yourself there is nothing wrong with the feeling of anger.

When you accept the painful emotions & feelings, you are allowing them to die their natural death. Accepting your painful emotions will improve your emotional strength.

Always remember the miracle of surrender that anything you accept fully will take you to peace.

3-They set healthy boundaries

Emotionally strong people don’t allow others to control their emotions and they set and enforce healthy boundaries with their friends, family members, colleagues, and life partners. They take a stand for their rights and opinion. They don’t have a fear of being judged. They don’t care how other people perceive them.

A lot of people keep themselves conscious of how other people perceive them. If someone passes a nasty comment about them, they can’t stop dwelling on it, and as a result, they mess up with their emotions.

I had the same problem. I was very conscious of what other people used to think about me. When some people around me passed negative comment about me, I couldn’t stop dwelling on it and kept myself criticizing me, which created more complicated problems. This approach was ruining my life and emotions. I felt sad about other people’s opinions. And the worst thing about this behavior was I couldn’t take a stand for my rights and opinions.

One day I realized the fact that other people’s opinions can’t decide my self-value and personality. From that point, I genuinely felt that I was wasting my energy and time and allowing others to control my emotions. This lesson hit me harder, and I tried to change my approach, which helped me a lot to keep my emotions & life in a balanced pace.

So, if your rude boss makes you feel bad about yourself, it’s not your boss, it’s actually you allowing your boss to control your emotions. You need to set and enforce healthy boundaries to keep your emotions in a balanced pace.

In my closing thoughts, if you want to keep the balance of your emotions, you must be able to communicate your needs and wants and set (and enforce) healthy boundaries.

Point to Ponder “People form their opinion based on their understanding and some people can’t even understand themselves, so how would you take such people’s opinion as fact about you.”

4-They practice self-care routine

If our body is functioning well, our brain functions well. For example, a person who takes a healthy sleep is more likely to control his emotions than the person who gets a rough sleep of 4 to 5 hours. Emotionally strong people practice self-care routine to keep the balance of their lives. Here is how you can practice self-care routine

•Exercise: Exercise helps us to stay healthy and fit. It also reduces stress and lowers blood pressure. Regular exercise will keep you healthy and fit, which will help your brain to manage your difficult emotions with ease.

•Be a Diet Conscious: Your stomach and brain are interlinked. If your stomach gets upset, you will automatically feel sadness and anxiety and vice versa. So, you have to maintain a healthy diet in order to stay mentally fit.

•Spend time with your friend: Being with good friends is very important for your mental health. It also improves your relationship with yourself and your emotions.

•Do what you want to do: The person who follows his passion is more likely to be deeply satisfied. And a delighted person can handle his difficult emotions with ease. Emotionally strong people keep doing activities (Passion and Hobbies) they like the most.

A self-care routine is not a one-off act of self-indulgence. It means committing to a constant regimen of excellent & healthy habits that keep us mentally and physically fit.

It is not like emotionally strong people don’t experience intense emotions, but they are better equipped to handle difficult emotions and situations very well. Their ability to manage their emotions is a result of their self-care & self-discipline routine.

To Conclude:

You need to have a healthy relationship with your emotions to be an emotionally strong person. It doesn’t mean that you won’t feel intense emotions. It means you will handle them effectively—all you need to practice the following behaviors and habits to improve your emotional strength.

•Gi ve up on your negative, useless, and unhelpful thoughts. Keep your thinking at a balanced pace to keep your emotions at a balanced pace. Always remember, Thoughts and Feelings associated are temporary.

•Don’t try to escape painful feelings and emotions. Accept them by your heart and always remember anything you will accept fully will take you to peace.

•You have to not only set but also enforce healthy boundaries to balance your emotions. And always remember, People’s opinions don’t decide or define your personality and character. It’s you who decide it.

•Practice self-care and self-discipline routines to stay mentally and physically fit. And keep in mind, a healthier person is more likely to handle his intense emotions with ease.