10 Things You Should Never Say To A New Relation.

We've all been at a point in our lives where we thought it was about time to find an alternative type of love. Maybe you didn't have the same chemistry with your ex, or maybe your partner did not live up to expectations. Whatever the case may be, let's say that you're ready for a new relationship and looking for one that won't leave you feeling emotionally bruised and broken like most of your others have before. It will take some time, but here are 10 things never to say when talking about dating someone new.

1) I never thought I'd be into someone like you.

This is like saying, I've never wanted to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't shoot their own food. Desperate. Sure, this person might not be your physical type, but that doesn't mean that you can't enjoy the relationship for what it's worth. What if this person totally changes your life in more ways than you could ever know? It may not seem like it at first, but give yourself a chance.

2) I hate high school relationships.

This is the same as saying, I don't like the word relationship, and I never have since I graduated. Not only does it insinuate that you're not open to being in one, but also that you've never been in one before. To be honest, it probably means that you've never had a relationship with anyone as serious as someone from high school. Or maybe you were too busy going out with everyone and having no time to get your heart involved. Don't let a few years miss keep you from finding what you want.

3) I've never been in a relationship before.

This is like saying, I've never had the time or money to go out with anyone before. Okay, maybe you haven't gone on a date that meant something to you or paid any attention to someone who really cared about what they were doing, but relationships are a lot of work and can be painful if they don't work out. If it's just not your idea of fun and you're too busy making money and having fun with friends, then fine. But don't say it.

4) I don't think you love me.

This is like saying, I thought that we were in this relationship for a reason, and I'm not sure if you love me or not. That's like saying, I never really liked hanging out with my friends anywhere except when I was with you. Whether or not you meant it or not, it still sounds like you are questioning the other person's feelings. If they say they do love you, then they should want to be with you. The last thing a person wants is to stay with someone who doesn't want them.

5) You're selfish.

This is like saying, I know that you're only in a relationship with me because you really want to just have someone around to care for you. This gives the impression that one's intentions are not genuine. If your partner is being selfish, then it makes sense. But if they don't offer anything back, then they just might be taken for a ride until they decide to do something about it.

6) I forgot about our anniversary.

This is like saying, I didn't even remember my anniversary. You could end things right now. If you forgot your anniversary and don't try to fix the problem by making up for the day, then that's just an easy excuse to break up with someone. What you should do is tell your partner that you are so sorry and will make it up to them somehow. Of course, they're not going to take it seriously and probably won't even feel like they want to date you anymore.

7) This relationship is bad for my career.

This is just a copout. You shouldn't let anything get in the way of a relationship unless you can work together to make the relationship work. If your career truly influences the way you live, then try talking about it and finding a solution that works for both of you. If you can't work together, then it just might not work out.

8) I don't think we should move in together.

This is just like saying, I'm too worried about money and safety to even consider moving in with someone. It's like saying, "I'm too worried about security and money to consider getting married or having a child. Basically, you're saying that you don't trust your partner enough to move in with them. True or not, the relationship will probably end because that's not the kind of person most people want to live with.

9) I don't think this is going to work out.

This is like saying, I've been putting off a heartbreak for a really long time. If you really didn't want the relationship to work, then why would you ever act like it would? If it's not working out and you really think it won't, then tell your partner that you're thinking about breaking up with them. It's going to be hard and tear down both of your self esteem, but at least it will be honest.

10) Maybe we should try being friends.

This is like saying, Maybe we should try being friends again, or Maybe we should just do something random like watch movies or eat dinner together once in a while. This is probably just an excuse for you to be able to end the relationship. Friendships are different from relationships. If you let friends slip away over and over again, it's going to affect your emotions. Don't let a few dumb mistakes get in the way of having a good relationship with someone who cares about you.

Conclusion

People have different levels of commitment and relationships, but if you're thinking about breaking up, it might be better to try to save the relationship than break it off and regret it later. In communication, don't assume and assume what your partner will feel. Just ask. If they want to stay together, they'll let you know. And if they don't want to stay together and want a break up, then that's just fine with you too. Be honest because this is all about being real. As long as you are honest with your partner and right now how you feel is how you should feel, then that's all that matters.