10 Quotes To Repel Those Trying To Change Or Manipulate Us
- David Stidston
Each and every one of us have our own body, our own mind, our own heart, and obviously, our own life. We are in complete control of our attitude, our thoughts, our beliefs, our views, our mindset, our behaviors, our personality, and how we choose to live our life. It's funny though how others will do everything within their power and capability to try and change, control, and manipulate us to live our life to suit their own needs and agenda. The most disappointing aspect to this fact is that those who do try to change, control, and manipulate us, to suit their own needs and agenda, are quite often our own family, partner, friends, and other loved ones. It could be our parents trying to manipulate us to complete a university course, or enter into a career in which isn't our passion. It could be our partner asking us to change who we are, just to suit their needs and please them. It could be our friends emotionally blackmailing us, just so they can find their own enjoyment and satisfaction, by using us. Whatever the scenario, this manipulation and selfish attempt to control how we live our life, is real. If in any way, our decisions and actions inconvenience someone else, or if they wouldn't be decisions and actions that they would make personally, or if we don't have beliefs and opinions that they agree with, they will attempt to change and manipulate us to believe and do what they want. You will find that these people will go to extreme lengths to manipulate and control us, and the most common way to do so, is preying on emotion. They thrive on trying to make us feel guilty for our decisions and actions, perhaps threatening to abandon us, they withdraw their support for us, they even go as far as letting tears flow, so to make us feel bad and have us ultimately give in to their requests. This is classic emotional manipulation, and we need to be aware of it, because if we give in to pleasing others, and allow them to manipulate and control us, we are ultimately sacrificing our happiness and success for the future.
Considering much of this manipulation and attempted control comes from those we love, it's not as easy as it sounds to just simply brush off this influence though. It really takes some will power, nerve, boldness, and courage, to stand up to those we love, and remain true to our goals, our values, our beliefs, and our character. At the end of the day, we need to prioritize our own happiness, along with our health, and the sure method to achieve that happiness is to accomplish our goals, as that brings about satisfaction. We can't expect to be the best father, mother, husband, wife, friend, work colleague, or person in general, if we are not happy and fulfilled in life. We need to design our own life in order to achieve our goals and happiness, not live by how others believe we should live, otherwise what we find happens, is that we become unhappy, miserable, and unsatisfied. Everyone is responsible for their own happiness, and that includes ourselves, we need to remember that. We should never be made to feel guilty for trying to create the best life and future for ourselves. Anyone who truly has our best interest and welfare at heart, will always be there to encourage us, inspire us, love us, and support us. Don't ever be afraid to reject the advice and instructions of others, if it's not in the best interest of your happiness, your future, and achieving your goals, no matter who it comes from. Don't ever allow anyone the right to try and change or manipulate you just to suit their needs or agenda. Here are 10 quotes to encourage you to repel those who are trying to change or manipulate you!
1.- "Don't let someone try to change who you are, to become what they need."
- Anonymous
2.- “Playing the victim role: Manipulator portrays him- or herself as a victim of circumstance or of someone else's behavior in order to gain pity, sympathy or evoke compassion and thereby get something from another. Caring and conscientious people cannot stand to see anyone suffering and the manipulator often finds it easy to play on sympathy to get cooperation.”
- George K. Simon Jr.
3.- “Whether they’re family or friends, manipulators are difficult to escape from. Give in to their demands and they’ll be happy enough, but if you develop a spine and start saying no, it will inevitably bring a fresh round of head games and emotional blackmail. You’ll notice that breaking free from someone else’s dominance will often result in them accusing you of being selfish. Yes, you’re selfish, because you’ve stopped doing what they want you to do for them. Wow. Can these people hear themselves?”
- Rosie Blythe
4.- “Until you realize how easy it is for your mind to be manipulated, you remain the puppet of someone else's game.”
- Evita Ochel
5.- “Because to take away a man's freedom of choice, even his freedom to make the wrong choice, is to manipulate him as though he were a puppet and not a person.”
- Madeline L'Engle
6.- "Genuine sincerity opens people's hearts, while manipulation causes them to close."
- Daisaku Ikeda
7.- “True love is built on free will and free choice, not control and manipulation.”
– Ken Poirot
8.- "When you acquire enough inner peace and feel really positive about yourself, it's almost impossible for you to be controlled and manipulated by anybody else."
- Wayne Dyer
9.- “Don't change your morality for the people around you, change the people around you with your morality.”
- Donald L. Hicks
10.- "May you reach that level within, where you no longer allow your past or people with toxic intentions to negatively affect or condition you."
- Lalah Delia
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David Stidston
My name is David Stidston, and I live in the beautiful city of Hobart, in Tasmania, Australia. My aim is to inspire and motivate as many people as possible, to pursue their goals, and create a future blessed with happiness and fulfillment.
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