10 Life Lessons People Learn From Critical Mistakes In Their Twenties

Let's be honest: Nobody likes to make mistakes, lose their time, energy and money. But mistakes can also be a teacher from our point of view; it can also create anxiety to move forward.

Here the pragmatist philosopher John Dewey has a thought:

"Whoever has a truly questioning mind learns a lot from his failures as well as from his successes."

Learning from your mistakes doesn't happen automatically. You need to reflect on and analyze your mistakes.

Author Darius Foroux gave lessons from his mistakes in his twenties. Inspired by his system of thinking and the way he analyzed his mistakes, we can reflect on our own mistakes:

1) Do not think you know everything. If you want to achieve something, you have to be humble.

Don't be one of those people who think they know everything. I've always encountered such people in my life. This was because I was one of them.

Whenever you refuse to listen to someone you think is smarter than you and think that you know everything to look smart, you are doing the worst foolishness.

It's time to put the ego aside and learn that life is not about affecting people.

If you want to achieve something, you have to be humble.

If you still haven't been humble, I have news for you. Life will make you humble at some point.

2) Don't look for the cause of your own unhappiness in others.

Others looked at you as a child. Your parents, siblings, family members, foster family… This could be anyone. Someone was always responsible for you.

But this is no longer valid. Now only you are responsible for yourself. So when you're unhappy, don't look for the source of it. It wouldn't be fair to people in your life.

Instead, accept your unhappiness and try to do something about it.

3) Don't waste your time with negative people.

It's a great chance that people around you aren't trying to do the same things as you. At one point in my twenties, I was surrounded by completely negative people. I was surrounded by people who dropped out in college, whose only concern was to spend more free time, with no goals.

Many people live their lives timidly and do not want to compromise their comfort. Stay away from people whose only life expectancy is to spend more time in front of the TV.

4) Love is not what you think.

You don't decide how the other person will act. You can't even claim such a thing. If you can't accept people as they are and tailor your expectations to yourself, you're doing a big mistake.

It is called conditional love when you want the other person to live by acting according to you. Strive for the opposite. It is difficult to let go of your expectations about love. But you have to. Otherwise, you will never be happy in your relationships.

5) Actually, you don't have as much time as you think.

When you're young, you think of yourself as in the middle of an endless sea of ​​time. You can do whatever you want. Isn't that great?

You blink your eyes and you're celebrating your thirtieth birthday!

The subject is very simple. Ask yourself the question:

• How much of my time do I spend on things that don't make me feel the happiness of inner fulfillment?

• Do I like what I am doing now? How much time am I spending on my job?

• Do I like people in my life? How much time am I spending on them?

The answers to these questions will give you an idea of ​​how valuable your time is.

6) Friendly reminder: You're probably not as great as you think.

There will always be someone better than you in certain subjects, smart, strong, cool, good looking. Always.

So stop thinking you are great at everything. What makes you think you're great? This situation shows that he is constantly comparing himself to others. Just be yourself and don't compare yourself with others.

7) Learning has no end.

The moment you stop improving and learning, you're dead. I am not kidding. I stopped learning when I left college. Guess what happened? Two years later, my life turned into a mess.

Challenge yourself to learn something new every day. If you can't get better, you're getting worse.

8) You are more satisfied to accomplish difficult things.

Are you running from hard things? Don't get yourself used to it. Force yourself to improve, to save, to exercise, to help others.

Remember that achieving hard things will always have more payback in your life. Try to experience early the feeling of being successful in a subject that requires a lot of effort. It could be going to the gym when you don't want to go to the gym at all, or it can be any good thing you do by force.

Feel the unrivaled sense of accomplishment and pride this situation gives as much as possible.

Remember that the same goes for your career.

9) Don't be afraid to be alone. Feel the peace of loneliness.

Being able to never be alone is a sign of danger. No matter how tight your relationship may be with family or friends, sometimes you need solitude to grow.

So try to go somewhere on your own, learn to stand on your feet.

When you are alone, you have enough time to know who you are. If you always spend your time with others, you will be the product of the people in your life. Sometimes you have to distance yourself from others.

10) Small decisions have big consequences.

If you skip working, training, your responsibilities today, it wouldn't hurt you, right? Or buying a new phone won't make you poor.

Even the smallest decision you make here can affect your life profoundly. Life is the result of the little decisions you make. You too are defined by what you do every day. This is actually good news. Because whatever you are and what you do today, you will be that person in the future.