How to Avoid the Post-Wedding Come Down

The months building up to your wedding day can be all-consuming. Even if there’s not actually much to do, because you’ve been on the ball, it can take up a lot of mental space just in anticipation.

Personally, I found it hard to see beyond the wedding. I knew it was just a day and the marriage was the most important bit, but the thought of all my family and friends in one place and trying to think of all the little extras that would make the day special was taking up all my creative energy.

As the day drew closer and there was less and less I could do to add to the day, I knew I needed some kind of plan post-wedding. We were lucky enough to be able to book a last minute honeymoon with the money we were given for our wedding presents. But once we touched base back home I needed a plan to make sure I didn’t find myself madly twiddling my thumbs with no wedding to focus on.

Let me just make something clear, I didn’t completely love the whole planning a wedding experience and I’m not keen to ever plan one again. If all goes well, I never will but looking back on it now, I can see how much energy a massive creative project like putting on a wedding takes. That energy needs somewhere to go once it’s all over.

A lot of brides talk about the post-wedding blues and while I was looking forward to not having that particular project on my plate anymore, I knew that I would feel the loss of having something big to work on.

So with that in mind, I put a few things in place to make sure I could enjoy married life straight off the bat without mourning the passing of my big day.

Have something to look forward to.

I think this is a big one. You might well be completely skint after the money hole that is a wedding but having something in the dairy for a couple of months time will keep your mind firmly fixed on the future. Preferably, this would likely be something you can do with your new husband/wife so you can milk the juice out of this newlywed thing.

Some things you can do, budget depending, is visit some family or friends who live elsewhere, book a mini break or holiday if you can afford it or have it in mind that you will attend something free that’s happening in your local area. Having a few fun things going on over the first few months of marriage will help alleviate any sadness you might feel about the wedding being done with.

Dive into a new creative project.

Whether you consider yourself creative or not, if you organized your wedding yourself, that’s a huge feat of creative genius! Think about it, you had this image of your wedding day in your head and you made it happen in real life. That’s major, and you know it wasn’t easy!

Now you’ve had this crash course in a major creative project why not use those skills and that energy for something else you’ve always wanted to achieve? Maybe it’s redecorating the living room at long last or it’s getting back into painting or starting a blog. Whatever is it is there is likely something you’ve always wanted to do but just haven’t for whatever reason. Now you know that you can find the time to do something extra, just like you did for your wedding, you can use that time to get to work on something for yourself.

Spend regular quality time with your new spouse.

A lot of people make jokes about how life is exactly the same post-marriage, especially if you were living together anyway, but the newlywed phase is a real thing. Whether you’ve been together forever or five minutes, carving time out of the madness of everyday life to enjoy each other lays a good foundation for the rest of the marriage.

You’ve just made this massive public commitment and even if you eloped it’s likely to be publicly known that you are now married. Make the most of the love and attention being directed at you from others and towards each other in this special period.

Having regular date nights and times when you actively do something fun together will help you remember why the wedding was such a big deal in the first place. This is what you signed up for, a life together, and you as a unit get to create what that looks like. What could be better than that?