10 Signs Your Wedding Guests Won't Speak to You Again

There is no party more high maintenance than a wedding. Throwing a traditional wedding means that you will need to have bridesmaids, groomsmen, coordination, a cake, and so much more. Lining up those details is tough, but you need to push through in order to make it happen. After all, a wedding is a celebration of two peoples' love for each other, right?

With all the craziness a wedding typically entails, it's unsurprising that drama arises. Sometimes, a wedding ends up being too much to handle for some people.

Once in a while, a wedding ends up becoming a kiss off for friends who are close to the bride and groom now, but just won't ever see you again afterwards. It's a common, but hushed, occurrence that can happen.

Do you ever wonder if your wedding guests won't speak to you again after the ceremony? Certain signs suggest that you might end up with guests who won't be part of your married life for too much longer.

Your behavior before and during the wedding was appalling.

It's not a secret, folks!

Being a bridezilla has cost many women lifelong friends. In fact, I'd go so far as to say that this is one of the more surefire signs your wedding guests won't speak to you again. You can't expect to act like a cranky, angry diva without people wondering why you're in their lives.

Have you recently pitched a fit at your bridesmaids, or demanded insane amounts of work or money from your wedding party? Don't be surprised if people go along with it, then ditch you post wedding.

The guest in question now lives 3,000 miles away.

For some reason that I can't fully explain, weddings tend to happen around the same time that everyone else experiences major life milestones. It's actually part of the reason why weddings happen in clusters.

One of the more unusual milestones you might have a friend go through is moving far away. With less proximity to your buddy comes less opportunity to hang out with one another. Unfortunately, this usually means that your friend will start drifting apart from you, and you from them.

Though this doesn't necessarily mean that it's a guaranteed effect, it definitely spikes your chances of having your more distant wedding guests not talking to you again should they even make it to the ceremony at all.

You invited certain guests because you've just been through so much together.

I call these "guilt guests," and to a point, we've all been there. Guilt guests are people who you only invite out of courtesy, or who you really don't consider friends anymore but just have to have at a wedding for one reason or another. You shouldn't feel forced to invite them to your wedding, but for one reason or another, you do.

The bad news about guilt guests is that you probably don't want to have them at your wedding. The good news is that these are wedding guests who probably won't talk to you again after your wedding—at least, in most cases.

Your guests wrecked your wedding or bachelorette party.

We all have that one friend who tends to be a bad invite to parties, and usually, this creates fallout. In many cases, this one particular friend will become a guilt guest at your wedding—but not always.

Though bridezillas tend to be known for their desire to hog the spotlight, it's very possible that a guest could end up wrecking the ceremony by their own desire to be the "person of the hour."

Whether or not your wedding guests won't speak to you again depends on a multitude of factors. In a lot of cases, a reaction that involves them being kicked out of the bridal party will lead to them never speaking to you again.

To that we say, "Good riddance."

Your spouse kinda hates them.

We all have friends that partners don't necessarily work well with. Sometimes, it's just because your partner finds them to be rude. Other times, it's because your friend straight up hates your partner. Talking about these realities before you walk down the aisle is an effective way to cut your guest list in half, so long as you do it for the right reasons.

Obviously, you should be worried if your spouse actively alienates you from all your friends. However, if it's just one friend they can't seem to stand, it's likely you won't see them much after the wedding.

If you have a jealous friend, they might not talk to you after your big day.

Believe it or not, there are people out there who are very jealous individuals but still care about you deeply. Sometimes, this leads people to stop talking to people who they feel have everything they want. It's not a nice thing to do, but it's the truth.

If you invited a guest who just went through a devastating breakup or was jilted at the altar, don't be surprised if she ends up falling into the category of your wedding guests who ghost you after the reception. It's not your fault; they need to sort through things all their own.

You get the feeling your guests only attended out of obligation.

I'll be honest. Sometimes, going to a wedding is more of an obligation than it is an honor. Wedding guests who don't support the marriage, who aren't really too keen on you, or who just don't really feel like they were given the right level of respect prior to the grand event tend to be among these people.

Do you notice your guests looking bored or annoyed? Have you heard them complaining about being "forced to attend?" Chances are that those wedding guests won't talk to you again once all is said and done.

In their eyes, they fulfilled their obligations once they saw you walk down the aisle. Now that it's done, they can disappear without being put on the spotlight. This is definitely an awkward problem with wedding guest that is solvable, but not inviting them in the first place may cause unnecessary drama. Choose your battle wisely.

The wedding was a disaster.

We all have heard about weddings that were terrible to the point of scandalous. Sometimes, it's just oversight on the bride and groom's side. Other times, it's because something just wasn't right with the catering, venue, or staff members.

Most wedding guests will overlook a bad wedding, but there's only so much they can overlook. If the wedding is so terrible that they end up getting hurt, or they end up being sued, chances are that you won't see them again.

Major drama was shortly revealed after the wedding.

True story—I attended one wedding where the couple got married, then after the ceremony, the maid of honor decided to admit that she was sleeping with the groom. She then said that she only came forth after the groom cut things off with her.

The marriage was quickly annulled. The gifts from the bridal shower were all sent back, save for the maid of honor's. Hurt feelings were everywhere for a good six months.

Needless to say, the bride and maid of honor are no longer on speaking terms. It happens.

Something just doesn't feel right.

Once in a while, you'll just end up with a gut feeling that tells you whether or not you're going to see each other again. If you have been trying to salvage a relationship that just doesn't seem to be improving during your wedding, it's okay to let the friendship die. Sometimes your wedding guests won't speak to you again after you tie the knot, and that's just the ending of that chapter in your life.

People change. That's okay. Your wedding guest list doesn't have to be filled with guests who are still around, it should be full of people who want to be around.