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When life doesn't always serve you, here's what you should do:

Taking ways and decisions to leave the things that don't help us is incredibly hard

By Wajiha KhanPublished 2 years ago 4 min read
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When life doesn't always serve you, here's what you should do:
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Choosing to stay or go and move on is one of life's most difficult decisions. Determining the ideal moment to leave a habit takes proper time even when a situation is harming you or preventing you from moving forward, it isn't always straightforward or crystal clear. We continue to be in unhealthy relationships, although they are soul-crushing and unhelpful, we continue them because it is difficult to leave.

It's incredibly simple to advise someone to let go, move on, or leave. However, in practice, leaving is difficult. Occasionally, it's much tougher than it ought to be. However, it is a skill that must be developed.

Once you are aware of certain underlying motives, it becomes simple to learn how to walk away.

Sometimes we continue those things that hurt us and become habitual of those in our lives. Although these things hurt us, if we learn how to tackle them, we can automatically learn to hang on and smoothly pass these situations.

The second thing is to decide when to walk away and when not to. How can you discover what benefits you more?

We are trained to strive from a young age. We are supposed to maintain our direction, stick with our decisions, and keep taking steps in the direction of greatness. Furthermore, we have to strive and be devoted to an idea to practice our favorite activities, such as learning a language, tolerating different situations or even just waiting for things to happen patiently. We finally get the benefits of all our suffering, and it's satisfying. Additionally, it teaches us the value of perseverance.

About the duality between staying and leaving, in which staying is good and leaving is negative, we form limiting ideas. Rather than giving up on things, we must fix them. This departure is a failure, and it is giving up. And it's a poor failure.

Another factor is a lack of perspective because it is so simple to view another person's life objectively. We can quickly determine when our close people do something wrong or are in miserable conditions and tell them the right path. Although we lack perspective, we don't lack knowledge or sound judgement. Being excessively focused on our life causes us to have tunnel vision, which prevents us from seeing more than a small portion of the world around us.

Self-control should be a part of life because our upbringing requires us to learn how to regulate ourselves. We need to develop good manners, restrain ourselves, and repress the desire to dominate our environment. And our circumstances are included in this control. We come to understand that our acts have repercussions, therefore if we can manage our actions, we can manage the repercussions.

We use moving on to the next to continue to the best of our abilities to predict the future, which is how we survive in life. However, even getting by is not a major issue. We don't need to protect ourselves from predators or rely on the weather to exist; we have access to food and shelter. Even though the culture in which we live is more comfortable than any previous culture.

Resistance to change is common. No matter how limited it may be in our current world, resisting change is a technique for surviving. So we stay. We cling to what we are aware of. We cling to other people, our connections, and our surroundings. a lot more often than we should. But occasionally, we can easily go on. Whenever we are emotionally disengaged, we move on. Regardless of how logical we like to think of ourselves as being, the majority of our decisions are driven by our emotions. We are influenced by and emotionally connected to the environment around us.

When our priorities shift, we move on.

Our priorities may vary as a result of trauma, triggering events, changes in the environment, self-esteem, or internal or external triggers. Events that alter our worldview and beliefs can cause us to unconsciously break out of previous habits. Because the system that was fueling our behaviours changes so drastically that there is no other option, there are occasions when we don't even notice the change or that we are leaving things behind.

We can learn how to leave situations that we objectively know are unworthy by having a clear understanding of why we stay and when we can do so with ease.

Some people maintain tabs on personality requirements and see how we exit.

Take a look at your reality. The degree to which reality can be unpredictable depends greatly on how we interpret it and the lens through which we see it. Finding your perspective and keeping an eye on your reality while you heal or advance may be difficult, but it is crucial. If you can uncover your established constraints and ideas, it will be simpler to comprehend what keeps you from going.

We frequently believe that decisions are difficult because making a decision is a crucial decision in and of itself. But we also tend to think about them too much. There are no objectively appropriate options in complex situations since we base our decisions on transient factors, feelings, hopes, and frequently inaccurate predictions of the future.

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