What Are We Left With?

by Ben W 20 days ago in aging

If you had to choose in old age between your mind being strong or body being strong, what would you choose to have?

What Are We Left With?

I was asked a question recently that was very deep and thought-provoking. A friend asked me if I had to choose between an old age spent losing my physical abilities but keeping my mental faculties, or an old age spent losing my mental faculties and keeping my physical abilities—Which one would I choose? The question gave me pause because I normally do not focus a lot on my impending aging, but it’s natural to think of what life will be like once you are an elderly person. My friend did not hesitate to say that he would choose having his physical abilities intact since he is a very active person and enjoys running, hiking, and exercising at the gym.

He thought that I would agree with him, and I do like to keep active as well physically, but I also thought of what would happen to my mind if I could no longer process and retain information about books I love, music I enjoy, and movies where I can recite a lot of lines of dialogue from. Perhaps most importantly, I thought of all the memories I have made up until this point, of both friends and loved ones, and how it would be anguishing to me if I succumb to a disease of the mind, where I lose sight of who I am or who my family or friends are.

I think that really is a fate worse than physical deterioration, because I find that our physical abilities and our peak performance do not last, and Father Time will have his way with all of us regardless of how much we exercise, take vitamins, and play sports. Eventually, your body will break down especially the older you get, and there is only so much you can do to spot that.

However, I tend to believe that exercising our mind and our mental capabilities can be a lot easier, and take a lot less work than it takes to maintain our physical body. We live in an age where you can learn anything you want about an unlimited number of subjects. Studying foreign languages, learning new subjects, reading good books, and writing our thoughts down in a journal are all healthy activities to kind the mind sharp. I am not an expert in terms of how to keep our mental capacities up as we go through life, but I would imagine that putting your brain to the test especially with puzzles, trivia games, and sudoku especially can help you preserve what is most important to you.

Unfortunately, I have seen firsthand how sad and tragic it is for others to slowly lose their mental capacities, and that is what tipped me towards the idea of focusing as much, if not more, on giving myself the best show to work on my concentration, my memory, and my ability to learn new things. I believe that we all have that same capacity to preserve our mental capacities although it does take consistent work that not only last years, but lasts decades as well.

Part of the reason of why it is good to be able to exercise your brain as much as possible is because I really believe it makes you a more well-rounded and thoughtful person. Learning new things is something you should never really give up on. Having a college degree or a law degree or a medical degree is not really an excuse to stop learning, or stop exercising your mind to the most you can push it.

We do not know what old age will hold, what will it be like, what abilities or faculties we will be left with, but what we have control over is today, and what we focus on whether that is mental or physical exercise. What I do know is how meaningful it is to remember what has happened over the course of your life, and to be aware of those special memories that are yours and yours alone. In the end, what are we left with? We are left with our memories, and hopefully it is more of an endless ocean than a single drop of water.

Focusing today on making those memories with the people we care about and the things we enjoy doing will make old age that much sweeter. If your body one day gives out but your mind is still sharp, I think that is the better side of the deal. Obviously, it would be great to be fit as a fiddle and sharp as a tack until your last day, but I find that to be wishful thinking.

I hope to remember who I am, what I’ve done, who I've met, and most importantly who I've loved when that time comes to reminisce, and there aren’t many more memories to make. Having memories in your mind that are fresh and seemed like they happened yesterday is the best you should hope for and what you can strive for, by working today to strengthen your mental capacities as much as possible. Your body at 70 is unlikely to be as good as your body at 20, but I’m a believer in the capacity of your mind at 70 to be as sharp as your mind at 20, within reason.

There are definitely outside factors to contend with, in terms of your ability to retain your memories such as your genetic predisposition, your family history, and your own mind’s chemistry, but you can control a lot today through your own actions, and what memories you will be left with 50 years later. It also does not hurt to start writing down in a journal or diary on a daily basis, or at least a weekly basis, what happened in your life. This is especially the case if you live an exciting or an eventful life.

In addition, having photographs of yourself at different ages and in different places will jumpstart your memories, and remind you of where you have been and what you did. Towards the end of your life, think of what you will have left. Yes, you will have your money, your possessions, and hopefully, good physical health but I wish you also to remember deeply the memories you have made from different parts of your life, as vividly as possible. Your life towards the end of it should be like a cinematic movie of many parts, one as distinct from the other, and I hope you can look upon those memories you have made with great enjoyment and great fondness for what was, and what it meant to you.

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Ben W
Ben W
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Ben helps students from around the world to improve their English language skills. Ben enjoys traveling around the world, developing his writing abilities, and reading good books.  

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