I Feel Fat and Uncomfortable in 2021, and I Am Not Alone

I am fat, and I have no excuse.

Before Mom passed away, I took it upon myself to have my weight under control. But after Mom died, I started to gain weight, and I don’t make excuses. I take full responsibility. It is my body.

I was eating my grief away. My grief has turned into a “kummerspeck.”

It took me weeks to get back to writing. Finally, I moved to a new place to be closer to my Dad, who celebrated his 82nd birthday. My promise to Mom was, I will do right by Dad.

As I started writing every day, I haven’t watched what I have been eating, while I can’t tell anybody what to eat and what not to eat, carbohydrates and my body, they aren’t a good match, and my love for sweets is now a 22 pounds belly fat, that I seriously need to work on.

In a February poll conducted by The Harris Poll on behalf of the American Psychological Association, 61% of US adults experienced undesired weight fluctuations during the pandemic, with 42% reporting they gained more weight than they’d anticipated.

I am not alone — 61% say they have “gained weight” too.

Be Kind.

Society is obsessed with body image, and many women (and men) feel uncomfortable in their skin. Luckily, there are many things you can do to feel better about your body — like physically nourishing yourself with healthy food or working out consistently. But how do you get mentally comfortable in your body? How do you live a life that makes you feel beautiful inside and out?

Do you know how to dress well for your body type?

Everyone has a different body type, and you should dress for your body type, not someone else’s.“Body positive” doesn’t always mean that you have to accept your proportion. Instead, embrace your unique body and let the compliments roll in.

“Having a positive and empowering body image is more important than having the perfect body,”

“This is because a body shapes our experience of our world.” Unfortunately, many women also struggle with body image due to a lack of self-love or the belief that they are not “supported” by their own bodies.

Let’s challenge the idea — you are enough just the way you are.

Keep the compliments rolling in and focus on the fact that you feel good in your own body.

Size diversity means you see yourself as beautiful regardless of how you look in a pair of jeans.

Are you comfortable with your body?

Women are often told to be body positive and to love their bodies. But what if you don’t like your body? What if you’re not comfortable with your body? You’re not alone.

It’s normal to have insecurities about your body, especially if you have a body type that isn’t socially accepted.

One thing you can focus on is visualizing your ideal body in your mind.

This can be done regularly, especially if you want to feel better about your body image. It can help you see what you would feel like naked or changing clothes if the clothes distract you from your thoughts. It can also help get rid of any discomfort or pains you’re having related to your body.

Images of idealized images of women surround us, but unfortunately, models portray an unrealistic model of what a modern woman should look like. You shouldn’t have to look like them to feel better about your body.

If using visualizations helps, you can do it during physical activity or in your mind while meditating, praying, or even thinking about something positive, like positive stories about women.

One key area to address and eliminate discomforts is sticking to a rigid exercise routine. What if you can’t find a way to stick to a rigid exercise schedule? There are many different exercise routines out there, and most of them will provide you with the thought patterns to use them.

Do you nourish your body with food that makes you feel beautiful inside and out?

Food is fuel for your body, and it can also make you feel great.

If you’re not eating food that makes you feel beautiful inside and out, you might not be eating enough of the proper nutrients.

Consuming enough calcium, vitamin D, and protein will ensure that your body works optimally to help you live a longer and happier life.

Lay off the junk food. No matter how tempting it’ll feel to grab a frozen pizza and chow down on it, focus on healthier options. There’s nothing worse than filling your body with plain, non-mouth-watering-good-food that makes you feel like crap.

Don’t let any foods make you feel you have to lose weight or do things to change your body to feel better about yourself. If it makes you feel better to change your eating or workout habits, you should do that.

But when you feel better — whether that be your body or your relationship with yourself and your goals — that should be the focus.

For some women, money may be an issue when it comes to food. Whether you’re buying at the store (i.e., pizza) or going out to eat, it’s essential to weigh the possible consequences of your choices.

Not eating enough healthy food will weaken you, cause fatigue, loss of energy, memory loss, and deficiency of important vitamins and minerals.

Besides feeling better about your body, finding self-love by nourishing it is incredibly important. We can’t truly feel good about ourselves — both as women and as people generally — if we don’t think positively about our bodies, mentally and emotionally.

Do you move your body in a way that makes you feel strong?

Your body is solid and powerful, and it deserves to be treated as such. If you don’t feel good about your body, it’s time to start showing it some love.

Move your body in a way that makes you feel strong. There are a lot of “ideal” body types — “big,” “curvy,” “athletic.” But this isn’t ideal. Your body is only an interpretation of the energy you put out into it, and you can only control how you respond to it.

And when you respond to your body the way you want to, you feel more comfortable. You look and feel better. This involves feeling good about the major organs of your body. Because if your belly isn’t the way that you want it, what makes you think the rest of your body will be great? You’ll never know until you try!

Remember, you are not your body.

Also, no one can transform their body perfectly. The beauty of this journey is that it’s totally yours. You can do what feels best for you, but make sure you tell the truth.

This encourages you to take charge of your health to take a whole part in your own journey toward feeling good in your own body.

Ask yourself, am I currently in a state of imbalance between my mind and my body? And when I answer in the affirmative, do some serious soul-searching. What needs to change? When do I need to start working out? Do I need to start listening to my gut? Looking good naked is cool, but having a positive body image is cool even more.

Final thoughts.

Get to know yourself, love yourself, and nourish yourself! When all areas are met, you will feel confident in your own skin.

It’s essential to get to know yourself and your own body. When you’re mindful of how your body and mind feel, you can start to figure out what it needs and make changes accordingly.

For example, if you’re feeling sluggish and tired, you may need to sleep earlier or exercise more.

Mindful eating is excellent for controlling cravings. You may want to try slowing down while eating if you’re someone who craves sugar the most.

Mentally spend some time focusing on positive things you like about yourself and things you admire about others. Remind yourself that life is a roller coaster and that nothing happens instantly.

Instead, take a step back and process what’s going on with your mind, body, and emotions.

Unfortunately, many people have a life view where their worth lies in their looks. At the end of the day, you’re the most important person in your life, whether you have a great body or not! That’s how things like body acceptance and tough love square off with self-love.

It’s easy to get wrapped up in the illusion that your worth depends on a certain body, certain clothes, or specific jobs.

In the end, show yourself some kindness.