Let It Go

I am sure we all been in love with the wrong person and it can be very painful. It’s not an easy task to let them go, but to be stubborn about it will only cause more harm the longer you stay and if there was a chance of them actually being the person ment for you to try and force the relationship will only get more and more toxic beyond repair. When its real love and true it shouldn’t be painful shouldn’t make you more sad than happy. Only time you should feel pain is when your person is ill or hurt. As well as you shouldn’t be intentionally the cause of that persons pain. If its you who can not love an other right or respect them still must let it go. It’s unhealthy it will make an ugly person in you. The longer you stay in toxic situationships the worse the pain will be, more damage to your self the more that will need to be healed in time you will being to lose yourself. You must not forget your worth and find the strength to let go hopefully before it reaches that point. I didn’t let go till I was lost 18 years in a toxic relationship with an abusive person took its toll on me lost everything and my self. So I encourage you to find the the strength within you and know that you are worthy of real love and respect. We must learn to accept that some people come into our life for a season to teach a lesson. Its our attachment, fear, egos that tend to keep us stuck in situations because its not love. That is not love. If we can accept to let go of what it was and see the relationship for what it is, see the bigger picture, its hard to let go of what your used to but if you could only see the bigger picture that by staying stuck on a person that is not for you in reality you are actually blocking your own blessings. See all that is needed is to learn the lessons they where meant to teach us so when we do meet the ONE! We are ready to build a good healthy relationship with a strong foundation. This person is the one meant to make you feel like the happiest person on earth. That is what you dont see is the true potential of having a healthy relationship and sometimes the person you are so stubborn to hold on to is the one but some healing needs to be done and a separation is needed to be able to appreciate what you did have and work on each ones inner issues. Once the healing had been done your paths may lead you back to that person to have a new beginning to a healthy relationship. If this is true holding on to the relationship in the toxic state may jeopardize a reconciliation if the toxic relationship get too out of control disrespectful, it can cause too much damage it may not be able to be fixed anymore. Holding on to someone not ready might cause a total lose insted of a temporary separation. I wish I knew this sooner. Dont block your blessings wasting time with someone thats is NOT for you. As for the people that like to outside their marriage and have affairs and the 3rd party, side piece as we know them who know the individual is married and you become stubborn to keep a person that definitely not for you they belong to someone and they most likely have not clue about the cheating going on behind their back. If this is the situation I wouldn’t want the Karma from breaking a home especially if children are involved but as always some still get involved in these situations once the spouse becomes aware either they put an end to the cheating and work on their marriage or you insist on taking the spouse of place best believe you just might and by doing so guess what now your position is vacant so better believe that they will fill that position and just how this relationship was acquired it will be lost a person like that has no respect and will not respect anyone who agreed to adultery and now this will be what has been accepted and the blessings of a healthy relationship are to the faithful spouse who now see the cheater for who they are and put an end to that heal to only move on to find themselves a good healthy relationship with a better person who will be good and now the toxic cheater is all yours while you just blessed them by taking all that from their lifes so in the end you will find they wont get over the person they had been married to and you get stuck with that person that was not yours but became so stubborn to hold on too only to cause self destruction. I learned the hard way after finally leaving a man that constantly cheated was very abusive I met the person I had prayed for all this time it didn’t start off as this amazing relationship we both had past traumatic relationships we had to heal from so we separated after some time we started communicating again and flet we had cheated our selfs from this amazing connection by bringing our past hurts in it so we healed and in time we gave our relationship an other chance and our communication, the respect, the love its the happiest I have ever been I didn’t even think this kind of love even though exsisted I believe it only was in fairytales but it not you can have that happy ever after fairytale relationship it just takes effort a lot of patience understanding communication honesty respect anything is possible just depends on how bad you want it and how much are you willing to work for it. Hope this can help someone save some years in figuring it out since it took me 18yrs. Best of luck to all may you find the person truly meant for you and may you hold on tight to that.