- To Be Loved -

- The Wrong-Right ~ Multiple Marriages -

To Be Loved~Oh what a feeling~Someone to Care Someone to Share Lonely hours during Moments of Despair ~

— Am I Choosing UP? —

The fact that the chairs are empty may be a perfect image of daydreaming ~ Who's Next ~

Fascinating to me; a curiosity if you will. From merely an 'observational' layman's point of view, it has always piqued my interest the thinking behind this issue.

Could it be to some that they only feel 'fulfilled' when snuggled within a marriage, and all the adventure therein; or just the fear-factor of being single once again? There is a Jewish Passover message: The Four Questions "Why this night?" ~ With a similar twist ~ WHY this Wife and not the others - even after 4 or 5 tries -

— Romance ~ Wearing Off ~ Stepping Up —

Some may search for 'The Next' way before the current Love interest ends – Pure 'Boredom' perhaps? – oftentimes all of us just need to slow down our enthusiasm long enough to feel and just hear another’s words.

Who me cynical? Hit me once it's your fault - hit me (3) times it's my fault! Could the 'Next' really be the IT ?

My dear friend tells me that she seems to thrive better when nestled inside a long term love relationship. For her, it is the day to day exchanges of affection, communication and knowing that her Love~Marriage partner truly has her back. Yep, even better than a Loving Corgi ~ Nah!

She adds that partners in this situation not only care for each other, on a continuous basis, but take care of each other’s needs as well; even as those needs may evolve: Kind of a Pollyanna approach. So perhaps one must honestly ask before reaching a conclusion (and after posting a Pro/Con sheet on the Fridge door) what they expect and need from another person. Even after sharing our precious time ticking away with another human intertwining every aspect of our lives, with someone we love, indeed should not be taken lightly.

Her Dad Quiped: I keep giving you away and they keep giving you back.

Accepting what most men and women believe themselves to be these days, she maintains that real acceptance includes vulnerability. Yes, that can be scary. Another person could leave you, steal your heart from you, or worse your self respect. But, I've agreed with her that getting your heart broken is far worse than the aforementioned check-list maladies that trusting another in your life may bring.

Ah, therein lies the rub of committing to your choice of walking one’s life path as a couple – Sitting and Gazing at the Sun-Set as One – After taking that plunge previously with several others, how much are we willing (or emotionally able) to risk for all of the joys of long-term love again? One huge drawback for me has been to be so aware of the mistakes that I've made before puts an unrealistic emphasis - 'Walking on Eggshells' - with my Mrs. "Next!"

— Out to Pasture —

Never to seem defeatist: "Why do we try, why do we settle, and is it worth it?" Reasons to keep trying might be ego, duty, or adventure. Why we settle may be due to comfort levels, pessimistic attitudes, or ennui (a feeling of weariness and dissatisfaction). Whether or not our efforts are worth it varies with both the situation and the people or 'Un-Things' involved.

Do you think A.i. will ever become 'smart enough' to pick the 'perfect’ life partner for any and all of us? Somehow, I think such issues are way too gnarly or complex, but I thought I’d ask anyway. Ultimately our one on one exposure to ask 'Daddy A.i.'s' advice would certainly put dating sites out of Biz~Quick if they offered smell-o-vision pheromone scents to their offerings.

This 'Multiple-Choice' observation covers so many of life-levels; not exclusive only to 'Partners.' Our simple stories seem to be 'Obsolete-Dinosaurs' with the onslaught of A.i. scribblers among us. We may now be referred to as obsolete 'Hacks' within this Original Scribblers-Society! Relegate us to the passed-over pastures!

– Whew Didn't see this Coming - Away with us Thinkers –

* Dr. Andrew Yellen, Ph.D Psychologist, and Therapist Appraisal Comment: "Jay poses many philosophical and real-life dilemmas in this piece, all worth considering. Is he posing the questions to himself, to the reader, or both? This is like Life's Mr. Toad’s Wild Ride through the minefields of when/if to move on after a relationship has ended, for whatever the reason. These are certainly many thought-provoking and relatable ideas. Most people, especially after losing someone, need some form of guidance, a 'how to-fix' for healing the emotional wounds."

Jay Kantor, Chatsworth, California

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