Women! Get More Love By Giving Less.

By knowing the truth about Overnurturing, any woman can attract a better quality man or encourage the man she already has to offer her more love, affection, and romance.

What is the term "over nurturing"? In a friendship, it's doing too much. Giving excessively. It's the polar opposite of how a woman prefers to have a friendship. Giving is something that men are expected to do. Women are expected to accept men's love, affection, and gifts and then reciprocate with love and affection.

Though many of us have realized this, it can be difficult to break free from what we've always done, what we've been taught is the right way to do things, and to risk the consequences we fear. So I'm going to focus on one specific issue: Nurturing.

Nurturing is a masculine activity. Stop nurturing your man if you want to get what he wants to offer.

Try it, as outlandish as it can seem. Stop what you're doing. Don't give anymore. Put an end to massaging your husband's emotions. Stop guiding your date through the dating process and let him flounder until he figures it out on his own. He'll do it.

For most of us, the idea of parenting is a conundrum. We think of mothering, parenting, and caring for our children as feminine traits.

That isn't the case.

It's possible that nurturing and caring for others is a female trait. Even though motherhood is a female position, it is still about action! Nurturing entails action. It's all about giving. Your energy leaves you and travels to or through someone else. You are behaving from a dominant energy position when you offer.

We are so used to the notion of nurturing as feminine that we are perplexed. We believe that loving and nurturing our men is the best thing we can do for them. Their bodies, minds, and spirits were massaged. There's nothing wrong with the concept of nurturing; it's how we go about doing it that causes so much trouble. We are both made up of yin and yang (masculine and feminine) forces. We do our best to step around them fluidly. At our worst, we're trapped in one of the two.

However, most of us are caught in one of two extremes. We either give too much all the time and become resentful, or we take the opposite approach and become emotionally inaccessible to our dates, husbands, boyfriends, and any man we encounter.

Men always mistake our caring energies for mothering. Our behaviors seem to be invasive. We seem to be assessing them and finding them wanting; otherwise, why would they need assistance? They, on the other hand, adore being the center of focus. We all do, don't we?

I'm asking you to pull down to zero in order to find some kind of equilibrium when we're all so out of it. At the very least, consider pulling down to zero. The small steps you take can seem to be enormous. When you stop doing things for your man that he doesn't want,

However, since he has grown used to your doing, will hate your not doing, and will almost certainly be glad that you have stopped doing, things may get a little messy before they get better. They can, however, improve.

It's all about over-functioning in this case.

What does it mean to be over-functioning and over nurturing?

You knock on his door as soon as he enters and inquires about his day. Since he appears exhausted, you offer to massage his stomach, feet, and back (even though you’re just as tired.) Alternatively, you might give your date directions to your home before he even asks. And you invite him in and give him food or drink without knowing what he has planned for the evening. When he has scarcely taken you out to a good restaurant, you offer to cook him a meal. You give your husband sex without being asked, even if you aren't in the mood, because you feel obligated to. You express concern for his thoughts and moods by asking him how he is feeling.

This might seem to be nurturing, but it is not. It's just about mothering. Giving a grown-up what he wants, not what you think he needs, is what nurturing entails. Tolerating what you don't want is indeed no evidence of nurturing an adult. Not tolerating him behaving badly or irresponsibly if it harms you or his relationship with you. This includes smoking, eating poorly, not working, and never leaving the house.

And you do that by telling him what he wants to do and assisting him in doing it, rather than by telling him how upset you are when it happens. Alternatively, tell him how pleased you are that he's doing something that makes you happy. Allow him to figure out when to fulfill his end of the bargain by making you and the relationship happy.

This is feminine force, the manifestation of genuine emotions. All of your tendings, restoring, doing, massaging, and caring is masculine energy at work, and it will get you nowhere near your goals.

Try it in a more feminine manner. Stop nurturing an adult man and start sharing your emotions in real-time. The first time is frightening, but after that, you'll wonder how you ever loved in any other way.