While hurt, learn to be strong

Sadness is one of the most enjoyable things in love. There is no such sadness, and I cannot experience happiness later. The following is a detailed introduction of the editor to learn to be strong while being injured. Welcome to read!

I have a female friend who officially dated her boyfriend on Christmas a few years ago. Since then, Christmas has become a special anniversary for her.

Every Christmas Eve in the future, she would always rack her brains to think of surprises and tricks to make the day even more special.

Just three years ago, their relationship gradually changed. Men began to be absent-minded about this relationship, but women were reluctant to break up easily and quarreled almost every day. So when Christmas comes, women will be more attentive in ordering big meals and choosing gifts. Just to rekindle the relationship between the two.

However, on Christmas Eve last year, just as she was searching for how to celebrate with her dry intestines, she unexpectedly discovered that a man cheated on her, which made her unbearable.

When I saw her a few weeks later, I couldn't help but ask her, "Should I be sad this Christmas?"

Unexpectedly, she thought about it and said, "This is the saddest and happiest Christmas I've ever had.

She said that after finding out that her boyfriend cheated on her, she called the restaurant to cancel the reservation. On Christmas day, she went to the department store alone to return the expensive watch prepared for her boyfriend and exchanged it for herself with another watch that she had longed for a long time. With tears in her eyes, she went shopping, bought beautiful lipsticks and dresses, and tried her best to please herself.

It sounds very sad, right, she said, but at the same time, she felt very refreshed and relaxed. During the past Christmas, I was thinking about how to make him happy. This year, I just concentrated on pleasing myself. Although I was so sad, I put myself in The first feeling is cool!

Many people think that falling in love with someone you like means you have happiness, but more often, love always makes people feel sad first.

When a person decides to devote herself to love, it means that she voluntarily gives up the safe life of drinking boiled water and sits in a bar full of adventures. She doesn't know whether she will drink sweet sugar water or strong liquor enough to burn her throat.

No one does not yearn for happiness, but few people realize that happiness is sometimes a very tiring thing, behind which there are many restrictions, restraints, compromises, sacrifices, and the fear that a lover will suddenly leave one day, Wait, the love that the experts of both sexes most often say needs to be managed. To maintain a happy one, one must keep learning, progress, keep oneself attractive, and even let the other party's importance take precedence over oneself, so carefully, Just for so-called happiness.

Although sadness is painful, it is one of the rare moments in love where you can be unrestrained.

Usually, to maintain a relationship, you are trembling and walking on thin ice. When your heart is broken, you can no longer manage so much. Because you are too sad, you no longer restrain your jealousy and fear, and you can enjoy the things you usually suppress. Put your emotions to the maximum, maybe cry for three days and three nights, or delete all the sweet records in the computer in one breath. This is a rare time in love when you can indulge and show yourself.

Moreover, most people will have some illusions about happiness, and pre-set what happiness will look like, but few people will imagine the situation of sadness. Sadness contains unknown fears, like being poured into a glass of extreme concentration. You never know how spicy Gao's spirits are, so you can only swallow them bravely. After all, love is your choice, and you have to bear the pain yourself. No one will stop this glass of spirits for you.

Sadness can be said to be an experience in your life that makes you challenge your limits. If it weren't for this love affair, you probably wouldn't have had the chance to be so sad in your life. At the most difficult moment, you will be shocked to realize that you are stronger than you imagined. The feeling of that moment is one of the most enjoyable things in love.

At the same time, after that kind of sadness, people will understand that happiness has no specific appearance at all, just like indescribable stamina that can only be experienced.

I have a friend who has never been in a relationship. He often laments that being single is hard, and envies every couple in the world. She is blinded by loneliness and becomes the third party impulsively. She has to endure her boyfriend beside her. Talking sweetly to another woman on the other end of the phone, or accepting a man's cruel telling her that she will never be able to replace Yuan Pei.

This relationship broke her heart. In the end, the man left her. After healing for a long time, she said that she now feels that even if she is single, she can no longer be sad for that man, which is a very happy thing.

People who have never been sad always think that happiness means having something, but happiness is a state, it depends on whether you can experience it or not.

Of course, love is very cruel. It is not that the person who has been hurt will be able to achieve complete love in the future. However, the person who has been severely hurt may not necessarily need to be given by another person to feel happy.

However, no matter how strong the stamina is, it will eventually fade away. People are insatiable animals. Even if they experience happiness, it is often only a matter of a while. Usually, at this time, there will be another glass of strong wine waiting for you. And you still can't figure out whether sadness is inevitable, or whether you have addicted to sadness yourself.