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When Your Best Friend Surprises You/How to Create New Friendships

The day that you best friend gives your email address to their grandmother; even if it was a massive surprise, your immediate reaction is to want to punch them. Of course, I wouldn't do that but maybe a friendly punch.

By Lizzy ArrowPublished 7 years ago 4 min read
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The most awkward thing that can ever happen to you is your best friend trying to surprise you; you know when you hate surprises but they still try to do something nice for you? It's still a surprise even though you know who it's from.

Yep, my friend just did that number on me; thanks Caspian, now I've got to get used to that one as well, not like it's awkward enough. To be fair, good call on the whole front of introducing me to the family slowly; then quickly throwing me into the deep end of everything, but really I've just gotten used to you haha.

I don't mind the whole family affair of people talking to me; but I do love Caspian's grandmother, the way he talks about her and that we have similar characteristics. He often says that I'm like her in so many ways; I do have to say that Missy, his grandmother, is one incredible woman, determined to talk to me even in the late hours.

My grandparents wouldn't even know what half of social media is; one of them has it, but still doesn't understand how to use it, he just wants to look at what his grandchildren are doing.

However, creating new friendships through people is the best way forward. Otherwise, you will never get very far in life if you're going down the same road with the same friends etc. It's hard once you're used to the friends that you've already made. When you try to make new ones, you're not sure what to do or say. Here are some useful tips on getting past that initial fear of meeting new people.

Realising that your fear of meeting new people is most probably all inside your head

Each time you move around, wether it's from moving houses, jobs, schools or even just wanting to meet new people to get out of your comfort zone, you struggle with negative thoughts. You start to think no one will like me, they will look into my past and judge me, judge me for who I am, etc. Which isn't true; unless they are a bad egg then ignore them; they are worthless people, who need to change.

Start out with a group of people who you are already friends with

No matter what, don't forget your other friends when you move on; the best part is that they've always got your back no matter what. Also, you can expand on meeting new people through them as well.

Get yourself out there

Most people like me are quite, shy, etc but at times you have to push yourself, keep showing up, do something that's strong and that will help you get noticed.

Take the first step

Taking the first step is the hardest thing ever; look for something that's more interesting to you, rather than something that doesn't interest you. Stimulating your mind helps you focus and explore more to help open more in your brain to connect with each other.

Be open minded

Be open minded because if you don't you will never know; embrace the unknown, don't knock it before you try it, say "yes" rather than saying "no". Otherwise, people may think you're lazy or something, think 3 positives and one negative.

Get to know the person

Get to know the person. You could play games like Would You Rather. Get to know someone new by learning how they think, own the conversion, show your best self, be friendly, be patient, respect other people's interests, pay close attention to the person, stay independent, spend time together, let there be positives and negatives, let the person know what your interests are, share information and feelings, invite them to gatherings, spend more time together.

Connect with a genuine person

Always try to understand what people really mean when they speak. Always let the speaker be the star. You may have your own thoughts and feelings about things, but you have the right to have opinions, so does the other person if you don't agree with them. Nevertheless, they may become overpowering but let them; as long as you know that you're true to yourself.

Be yourself

Get in touch with your inner child. Become more aware of your thoughts. I'm going backfire on my last point a little here, but it all ties in together; just be yourself and stay true to yourself no matter what people say or do, you have your own mind.

Be there for them

Reach out – a conversation, text or call goes a long way. Listen, don’t judge. Do something together. Good friends are always there to reach out to their friends in need; no matter how far away they are, they will always be a phone call away.

Make the effort to stay in touch

No matter if a friend has moved away or moved on, always make an effort to stay in touch. No matter how busy you are, or what's gone on just get in touch every so often.

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Lizzy Arrow

I'm a full time blogger...I love writing writing is my passion. I write different types of things even have my own website called lizzysweeklyblogs.

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