When You're In a Relationship

Important things to remember when you are married or in a serious relationship:

Do not ever assume your partner feels loved.

Date nights are a must.

It does not matter if you go out, or stay in, as long as you are connecting regularly.

Talking openly about what you want to change in your relationship is important.

Learn each others love languages. (Everyone gives and receives differently, so make sure you know what yours is, and what your partner's is.)

We all do not perceive love the same way. Make sure you love the way they need.

Go to bed mad sometimes.

Do not force a resolution.

Sleeping on it does help.

When you get into a fight, do not just say “I’m sorry.” Say what you are sorry for, and how you will react differently next time.

It will get boring sometimes.

Every couple goes through the “boring” stage.

It’s normal for things to get boring, don't panic.

The boring stage will fade if you let it.

That boring time in your relationship is when you will have to put the most effort in, it is more important than the fun times.

Some days you will have to pull more weight than your partner, and visa versa.

It’s important to check in on each other’s mental health.

It’s okay to go to couples counseling.

Counseling helps, especially when you can go together.

Going to counseling does not mean you two are ending, or failing.

Talk about money.

Talk about your financial goals.

Let your partner know what you expect from them, and visa versa.

Turn off the phones an hour before bedtime and just talk to each other.

Ask questions like: “What do you need to see more of from me?” or “How can we understand each other better?”

And most importantly, be kind to each other.

Love each other.

Fight for each other.

Remember, love is never easy, and it IS one hell of a ride.

But damn, is it ever beautiful, and worth it.

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