When a man neglects you, don't please anymore, the important thing is to learn the "three-step method"

Regardless of whether the two people first met by chance or came together for many years, when the emotional dust settles, they must finally bid farewell to romance and passion, sink into the cumbersome real life, and spend a lifetime together in a plain life.

Therefore, for the husband and wife, the biggest test does not come from the test in strong winds and waves. They are often defeated by small problems in real life and fail to reach the end.

The most common thing is that the emotional preservation period has passed quietly, and the man's initial passion has disappeared, making you suddenly feel like a different person. Once he was so hot as fire, but now he is as cold as frost.

You mistakenly think that as long as you change your heart and please all sorts of things you can get back to the man's original sincerity. Unexpectedly, the more humble you bow your head, the more you will be looked down upon everywhere, and you will even "pick and stab" for no reason to make you feel tired.

In fact, everyone’s emotional path will not be smooth sailing. As long as these small problems are handled correctly, this hard-won relationship can be protected, and it can be more happiness in the relationship. .

When a man neglects you, don't please anymore. The important thing is to learn the "three-step method."

Step 1: Don’t let a man think you can’t do without him

As the saying goes: what you can get will not be cherished.

Psychologically speaking, this is because after having it, you don’t think you won’t lose, and then you don’t feel afraid of losing. In fact, from the emotional point of view, the longer two people get along, the stronger the man will become. He will think that the other person will not leave him anyway, so no matter what kind of attitude, it doesn't matter.

In fact, in my opinion, there is another reason. That is, some women live by relying too much on men, which will make the other person think that it is impossible for women to leave themselves, or that they cannot leave themselves, because they have their own existence, and let her have everything now.

Therefore, the longer this kind of unequal relationship exists, the more certain men will not cherish each other from the heart, but will have a wrong feeling: anyway, she is dependent on me, no matter how I neglect her, they will not let She left.

Please note that if you encounter such a situation, please don't use flattering methods to solve the problem. Because, it will only make the problem worse, and the psychological distance between the two people will become larger and larger.

The best way is not to make him feel inseparable from himself.

When two people get along, each person is an independent individual. Your world can't just exist for each other, but you should have more of your own pursuits. You can take care of him intimately, but you must also have the other person's care. Although the emotional return does not have to be equal, you can't just give it without return, so the unbalanced relationship is destined to not last.

Step 2: Make yourself better

Charlie Munger said: When you want something, you must first make yourself worthy.

Love is so, so is marriage. In many cases, a man ignores you because he feels that he is superior, that you and him at this moment are not at the same level, some topics cannot be shared with you, and always think that you are people from two different worlds.

As a result, he got used to being in the cold, and he felt that it didn't make much sense to say it from the heart. It's better not to say it or to find other like-minded people, sit together and talk, talk and laugh.

At this time, if you have not noticed the crisis, then the distance between each other will be further widened. Because the biggest thing between husband and wife is that they have nothing to say. Even if they sit together, they treat each other as air. Such feelings are destined to last.

The most correct way is to make yourself better. Don’t be just the other person in your mind. Instead, you should have your own pursuit, or your favorite job, and your own obsessive interests. It’s best to let yourself be successful in a certain aspect, so that when you sit with him and talk about a topic At times, I will not be embarrassed because of the cold, and will not slowly alienate because of non-speculative words.

Step 3: Let him see your value

Another reason why men leave you in the cold is because they treat you as a housewife, thinking that you will only turn around the stove all day. Slowly, the original brilliance gradually faded, leaving only the shape of the body and the face is haggard, he may not say it, but in his heart he will think that you are of little value in this family.

Don't forget, two people must complement each other and achieve each other, so that a relationship can go from the beginning to the end. If only relying on one person to give, then the original happy feelings will also lose balance. On the contrary, let him see your value, it seems that the reality is very reasonable, behind this is the beginning of making yourself better and better, and it is the reason why the other party deserves to love you more.

When two people first met, it must be the ability and appearance of the other person that moved you. From a psychological point of view, this is a tendency to choose the best. If two people get along for a long time, they think that as long as the time passes, the relationship will definitely become deeper and deeper. In fact, this is a very wrong view.

The correct thing is that if two people can work together to become better and better, they will love each other more and more. If only one person moves forward and one person stands still, sooner or later this kind of relationship will fall apart.

Therefore, you have to keep pace with your lover. The best way is to let him see your value, whether it is from family care or childcare, or even dealing with others or hobbies, etc., so that he feels that you are one Valuable people will pay more attention and care to you from the heart.

Love is easy, perhaps only a momentary thing; love is difficult, it takes two people to spend a long and ordinary time together. Here, the best way is for two people to walk together, respecting each other and encouraging each other; making progress together and admiring each other.

The best love, but so.

The more you love someone, the more you have to understand this. It's not just enough to show care. The real time is not just empty words, but each other never chooses to give up because of a little setback, but rely on the right methods to gain trust and ownership.

Starting today, let yourself become a better person, only then will the other person care more about you. Don't let the distance between two people grow bigger and bigger, as long as they keep in sync with each other, happiness will follow one after another, and sweetness will also come.