What Wrong Steps Do We Take at the Beginning of a Relationship?

Every time you have your first romantic date with someone and you want to build a couple with that person, you are overwhelmed by terrible emotions and you are afraid of not taking the wrong steps at the beginning of a relationship - steps that can ruin everything?

The key is to be yourself - if you like it, you like it the way you are and try to control your emotions! Someone once said, "When you're on your first romantic date and your instinct tells you to do something, do the exact opposite!" It's not like that, but, indeed, often our instincts don't help us at all and too much emotion can ruin everything!

So, here are some of the wrong steps at the beginning of a relationship that you should avoid as much as possible:

● Don't try too hard - don't try to please the other person so much that you're completely fake! An attitude too pleasant, too kind, toil too much to always find the perfect replica, the more it works to your detriment! Don't exaggerate: when you try too hard, this is visible!

The same is true for physical appearance: don't overdo it and don't dress as elegantly or provocatively as if you were going to a prom! Try to keep your style in choosing the outfit - because if you want things to work out, the other person has to like you the way you are! You don't even have to worry too much about planning the evening: where you go, what you do after that - not everything has to turn out perfectly!

● Among the other wrong steps at the beginning of a relationship is pretense, falsehood - because you want so much to go and especially when you like a person, you are in danger of pretending - in the sense that you like things you don't like - just out of a desire to see how well you fit in!

Likewise, you can often agree with things you don't believe in! Indeed, similarities help a lot to start a relationship, but don't lie! If you like different things, it's not a tragedy - you may be right in other ways!

And think about what will happen if you lie to him/her as you like computer games and skiing - even though you haven't played since Mario's invention 15 years ago and haven't seen skis in your life and not even do you like snow? You will be put in an extremely embarrassing situation in the future: if your relationship progresses, you will have to admit at some point that you have blossomed things so that she/he will like you! Isn't that beautiful?

● Wrong steps at the beginning of a relationship can be fixed in the opposite direction to the previous one: while some try too hard, others try to keep a "cool" attitude, playing the famous "hard to get"! It's a whole ritual of courtship and flirting, but you need to take things so far that as a man - even if you can't wait to see her - you have to wait three days to call her, and as a woman - though Are you crazy about him, are you pretending to be busy on Friday night and proposing on Saturday ?!

If you exaggerate with this attitude: do not call, postpone meetings, wanting to show how "cool" you are, you may either get your partner bored of games or misunderstand - understand that you are not interested (a ) and that you are just polite! Beware: from a certain age, neither women nor men are so willing to play, so it's better when you feel good with a person, be honest and open and tell them how much you like their company. !

● Wrong steps at the beginning of a couple of relationships: show only the good parts, hiding them "under pressure" on the least pleasant ones! Of course, we all do this because it is natural to want to show what we have the best, but you have to be honest with yourself and the other person and not hide everything!

Nobody is perfect, so modestly admit certain flaws - no one asks you for a complete list of all your bad and dark parts, just a little sincerity! The tendency to show what is best can lead to self-praise - which is annoying and unattractive!

Great wonder if the person wants to stay with you for hours while you list your "great" achievements! And even if you have accomplishments, don't brag about them - it's a difference from heaven to earth between self-confidence and pride!

● Among the other wrong steps at the beginning of a relationship is the critical and sarcastic attitude: even if you are usually tempted to judge and criticize all aspects, at the first meetings refrain! Of course, you should not criticize the person you met, his / her opinions, and his / her preferences.

But also refrain from acid criticism of others, of the place where you go, of the food, of the movie you see! Nobody likes a person who is deliberately looking for the bad parts of an aspect to criticize them happily afterward!

● Among the riskiest wrong steps at the beginning of a relationship is excessive involvement: if you open up too much in front of a person and get involved with dedication in building a relationship, you risk getting hurt!

So for a while, maintain a cautious attitude and avoid giving your soul on the tray! It takes a long time to get to know a person - although instincts can fool you here too - so be careful, enjoy the other person's company, but don't go for the "ready, I've found I chosen one" idea!

● Related to the last idea: be careful when you put yourself in a situation - which can be quite embarrassing - to say "I love you"! You feel it, you know it and at some point, you have to tell it! But wait at least a month or two for meetings, to see how things turn out and how she/he reacts to your approach! If you read in his eyes that he feels the same, everything is good and beautiful! But if you have doubts, it is better to follow the principle "better safe than sorry" and wait until you make the first declaration of love.

● Wrong steps at the beginning of a relationship: for fear of not getting bored or having something to talk about, you call a friend or several to join you! Big mistake - you have to go through at least four or five meetings in two to call other people.

If you are so scared that you will get bored, you may not be suitable for each other. Also, another mistake is to insist that you only go to noisy clubs, to be relieved of the need to have a conversation! If you do not want to talk quietly with this person, then what are you looking for in a meeting with him/her?

● No matter how excited you are, don't drink too much! If at the first dates you drink too much and behave like crazy, then why would you expect the person next to you to call you again ?! Sure, no one forbids you a cocktail or a beer, but in moderation: nothing more embarrassing than getting drunk on your first date!

● Finally, one of the most horrible wrong steps at the beginning of a relationship is to rush to bed! No matter how much the person attracts you and no matter how much has passed since your last sex game, never rush things - go at least three or four dates without having sex!

As a man, if you try, you will give the impression that you are only interested in this and that you do not have "material" for the relationship! And as a woman, you will give the impression that you are easy and that you want an adventure, not a serious relationship!

In the end, the keywords that help you get through the beginning of a relationship are honesty, modesty, ease, patience, and a little rationality!