What to Do If You Are Recovering from a Broken Relationship

Breaking up is never easy. It can seem as if your world is falling apart never to be put back together. Your confidence feels shattered.

Did you know that you can recover from the loss? As a matter of fact, you can thrive. You no longer have to feel as if you will never live or love again.

Here are some steps to take as you recover from a previous, broken relationship and become a more healthy and confident person.

Get to Know Yourself

This might seem like a strange statement, but it is vital. We often forget who we are when we are devoting ourselves to the needs of another person. While it is commendable to be devoted to another person, you must also be devoted to yourself.

Take time for you. Bring your likes and dislikes back to mind. Get involved in the activities that bring you joy. Avoid what does not work for you.

Finish that Project

Maybe you were working on a best-seller before you got involved with your ex. Perhaps you were making a quilt or completing a wood-working project. Motivate yourself to get back into it. Finish what you started.

Having a sense of accomplishment builds confidence and makes you a better person. You can recover more quickly and effectively if you are confident in who you are as a person. Finding your talents and working on motivation will bring healing.

Give Yourself Grace

If you need to cry or find some way to express bottled-up emotions, feel free to do so. Suppressing emotions is not productive. You will not completely heal until you admit that you have been wounded.

Give yourself grace to take your time in recovery. Give yourself permission to say no to a dinner date even if you have agreed to go as friends. Give yourself permission to date someone as a friend if you wish. Whatever choices you make, feel comfortable and confident.

Don’t Be Afraid to Say No

If you are not comfortable in a new dating situation, feel free to be honest. If you are not comfortable chatting with a potential date on social media, stop engaging. You can be honest without being rude, but remember you are not obligated to be uncomfortable.

While it is good to get out with friends and family, feel free to say no if you are not up for it. Do not become a social recluse, but you are not obligated to befriend and please everyone. That might have been a problem in your previous relationship, and it can cause frustration.

Avoid Fixation with Time

People say that time heals all things. Of course, there is truth in that statement. However, it might be best to avoid statements such as “I will never date again” or “It will be at least six months before I go out again.”

Certainly, a person needs time, but remember time periods are not going to be the same for all people. One person might be ready to date again in three months while another person is not ready for six months or longer. Time limits often put pressure on people. Take it one day at a time.

Life Will Go On

At the time of a break-up, you feel caught. You might believe you will never be the same again. The fact is that you are not caught. The truth is you will not be the same again, but that can be positive.

You can become a better person. You can become more confident and comfortable in who you are. You can move on. You will eventually see your ex in a different light. Keep living and keep going. Your life and your heart will go on.