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What is the Value of Getting Back with an Ex?

Do you really want to get back with them? That is the age-old question I am asking presently.

By Ashara ArmandPublished 6 years ago 3 min read
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Don't get me wrong: getting back with an ex is never an issue. You may have unfinished business and things to say between the both of you. But is it worth it? Perhaps it is, perhaps it isn't. There are so many different ways and reasons as to why we want to get back with ex flames. Especially now that we're in the Mercury retrograde, in that we have other different planets that are in retrograde. I feel like it's just something that supposed to hit you with a hammer in order to get you on the right path or on the right terms. Sometimes we have to be faced with reality. Even though it's really nice to live in Wonderland but at the same time what are you really going to do with your life? There's so many different ideas about getting back with an ex. Sometimes it's the midnight booty calls. Sometimes the booty calls lead to exciting sexual play. And then there are the random phone calls of somebody missing the other individual or for the sake of not being alone. Sometimes I feel like those are the phone calls that are the worst. Because you never know if the person was genuine in the first place to want to rehash the past.. or even fix what was broken.

There're so many people out there that don't really know how to stand still and appreciate what they have. There're so many people who cheat on their significant others because either they were bored or they found somebody they fell in love with deeply. And sometimes that leaves certain women bitter or it gives certain women Clarity to know what they are looking for. Whether gay or straight, many people go through different aspects of relationships. We have friendships that sometimes go completely bad or we have relationships that lead to deep passionate love affairs. Or we have marriages that are completely awesome but then eventually crumble into the Dust. There's so many different things that are going on in this world I don't know of anybody ever stand still. Perhaps I'm somebody who wants to stand still for a minute to admire how far I've come when it comes to heartache especially with an ex-lover.

Now if you are getting back with an ex Flame here are the characteristics you should definitely look for. Maybe it will help you make your decision. That way you don't have to worry about hesitation. Hesitation can lead to bad things.

1. How should you approach it when you hear from your ex?

Keep it simple and casual. But if it's going to be negative don't bother answering the person. There's no point in ruining your day because somebody wants to be bitter. If the individual in question is not coming from a place of Love why even try? You're only putting in danger think about that.

2. What do you see in the next five years with your ex?

Now that is a very hard question you never really know what you're going to expect in the next five years because you can never really plan. Relationship ambition is a great thing. It shows that you have a great vote of confidence and knowing what you want for yourself and what you want for your relationship but don't plan ahead too far specially if you're just talking to your ex on a friendly level. Because they can have different intentions then what you expect. So take it slow. Don't plan too far ahead. Live in the present.

3. Late night booty calls are just a devil's doorway to get into your pants.

Don't allow yourself to succumb to the charms of your ex-lover especially if you know what they're about. Because you don't want to wake up the next day completely regretting the situation. Then you're stuck between a rock and a hard place and many confuse feelings. If you see their number just put it on mute—you're better off that way. Even though late night booty calls are awesome I will not knock anybody for doing it because I have done it myself in the past just remember your value. Remember that you are a valuable person and you want to make sure that if you're getting one of those calls at night that is to check on you and not to get into your pants.

4. Last but not least, the age-old question.

Should one provide sympathy if your ex suddenly become single after their own break up what should you do?

Answer that one yourself. Only you have the best answer.

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Ashara Armand

Greetings! I enjoy writing and I hope that one day I can share some of my experiences!

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