What Diplomacy Is and How It Can Help You

Diplomacy is not manipulation as many believe, but a precious virtue.

A simple definition of diplomacy is the ability to deal with all issues peacefully and seriously, without disrespecting others.

When you are diplomatic you don't try to impose your will or disregard what others feel and want.

Instead of trying to manage other people's lives, offering tips, or making choices for others, you learn to listen and try to understand what's best for them according to each one's personality and the situation in which each one finds themselves.

However, you will undoubtedly encounter people who are intransigent and cannot adjust when they encounter obstacles because they are inflexible and never change their ways. These people insist on their views without paying attention to reality as it is. They only see what they want to see and it's no use showing them the points they don't examine.

In this case, you must understand that these people are not open to learning anything and that you must not insist on trying to open their eyes.

You will be diplomatic if you are patient with them and gradually show them what they don't want to see, when possible.

Don't fight with them because they don't want to pay attention to what they dislike. Be patient and calm.

By the way, in order to be diplomatic you must never quarrel with anyone. You must always remain calm and avoid offending others.

Understand the Difficulties of Others

If other people don't agree with you or don’t want to pay attention to your arguments, it's not worth insisting. Accept the fact that they don't want to change their minds and don't insist on showing them the mistakes they make, as this will not help you get what you want. You'll only manage to irritate them and get irritated as well.

You need to make them understand their mistakes little by little, without hurting them and without imposing your opinion.

Pity them because they are clueless about their negative attitude. Be understanding and try to see that perhaps these people are experiencing difficulties in their daily lives, which could even be a permanent condition.

Do not condemn them and do not think that it is impossible to make them change their ideas and behavior, because with patience and goodwill, you will manage to make them see what they refuse to see and end up having a positive attitude.

You may have to wait a long time for this to happen, but don't get discouraged or think that this will never happen.

Some people need more time than others to understand various factors that they despise or don't want to take into account, but if you are patient and persistent, they will eventually understand everything and even become your friend.

On the other hand, admit that maybe you are wrong in some way. Don't assume you're always right and others can't see what's obvious to you.

Perhaps you need to pay attention to various details that you overlooked, or you need to learn to express your ideas more clearly.

Learn to be flexible and humble. Tell those who don't understand you that maybe you didn't help them understand what you mean, without showing yourself the owner of the truth.

This way it will be easier to get the attention of those who don't want to agree with you or don't want to see what is not convenient for them.

Remember that everyone wants to defend their interests, even when they look down on the interests of others. Try to convince them that their interests will be respected, even if they accept conditions that do not seem to take these interests into account.

You will find that you will get better results in your relationships if you are diplomatic, even if it means that it will take you much longer to get the results you want. It is better to delay than never to reach the desired goal.

Be patient, humble, and persistent, and at some point along the way, you will find that everything will turn out in your favor.