Unrealistic Relationship Expectations Kicking You Out of The Game

Most women are approaching their dating lifeline. It seems most qualities they seek in men are too far-fetched.

I realized most single women are strung up about their expectations of men.

They think men are weak by failing to live up to their expectations, arguing that most young men are emotionally immature.

Women expect men to be the all-perfect gentlemen.

I have done some matchmaking over the years, and I have learned that the average woman has a standard of what men should look like, which is not exactly how men are.

The preconceived idea of what men should be makes women's expectations unachievable because men are wired differently.

Men are not sensitive and girly like we are and won't understand our emotions or communicate as much as our female friends can.

We think they are insensitive and heartless when they don't behave the way we want them to.

The average woman wants her man to be her best friend. Someone she can talk to about everything.

She wants him to be able to read her mind and know what she wants or doesn't want at a particular time.

She wants a package that consists of good looks, humor, stability, patience, trust, and loyalty.

Women's ideal version of a real men is that they must have sufficient financial resources, connections, and problem-solving skills.

Women expect men to be perfect, but the problem is they're not perfect. No one is.

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I can understand having a prerequisite for dating. You should have high expectations of the other person in a relationship because you're considering spending your life with that person.

But we should be reasonable with our expectations. What you expect from your partner or would be partner should be something you can give in return.

And it's not just women who have unrealistic expectations. Men, also have their own image of the ideal wife or girlfriend.

We have to admit the expectations that each of us has on the other sex are pretty high.

We all want the perfect partner who will climb the mountain and cross the sea to meet our demand, but are we going to be that version of what we seek?

Acknowledge that your life will never be perfect. Your relationship will never be perfect. Nothing will ever be perfect if your continue to hold on to a version of perfection in your heart.

High expectations ruining modern relationships

Women considered a "real man" earn six figures, drive fancy cars, and break headboards, all while tending to their emotional needs and never looking too soft or vulnerable.

While men expect a real woman to be submissive, calm, and unquestioning, they make sure their husbands are fed, relaxed without hurting their ego.

Men find the idea of being a sole provider quite overwhelming. And rightly so because times are really hard. So they won't date or marry dependent women.

But after a tough day, they go home to their wives, who are readily available to attend to their needs. So he gets to stick only to the role of providing while the wives are expected to provide and still play 'housewife.'

The expectation that women should be smart but keep it under check, so their husbands doesn't feel belittled.

They should attain education but shouldn't go so far that potential suitors feel intimidated.

They should be independent but not so much so that the man in her life will feel unneeded.

The burden of caring for the children falls on women with little to no help while working tirelessly, serving and servicing her husband with a smile.

This is unrealistic. Society's expectations of modern men and women are unrealistic.

Also, trying to live up to such unrealistic expectations (and encouraging men to demand them) will make women try to be a different version of themselves, which doesn't work well for anyone, ever.

Parting words

There is a lot of difference in the way men and women approach things in relationships.

When two individuals come together to build a relationship, their own set of expectations and beliefs often drive the relationship crazy.

While some of them motivate you to achieve bigger in life, some may even put you in a tight spot.

In many cases where relationships turn sour, unreasonable expectations turn out to be the real evil.

The attributes that you present to a potential partner should be attributes that reflect who you are. You have to find a man who matches your requirements in character and values.

His expectations should focus on things like lifestyle, goals, and vision rather than physical appearance.

It's okay to have high expectations, but at least make them achievable.

Some will agree that the best way to build a strong and healthy relationship is to expect nothing and appreciate everything.

This might seem quite tough to follow. However, no relationship is without sacrifice. The couple must be willing to compromise in order to fit into each other's lives.

Try to give each other some breathing space, as happiness in relationships exists when there are less expectations.

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