Top 6 Non Negotiables In Any Relationship
Relationship non-negotiables are ways we are able to communicate our needs for a healthy relationship
A good relationship that has every chance of going the distance and having lasting love and happiness is based on fairness. Each of you has a sense of what equality means in a hesalthy relationship, and it is important to make these ideas clear going into any dating relationship that may go forward into a commitment.
Since people have different needs healthy relationships don’t look the same for everyone. While love is a feeling of affection toward someone, respect is an admiration for them based on who they are as a person. A relationship that works in our 20's may not be anything like the relationship you may want in your 30's.
Unfortunately, many do not identify their essential needs before entering a relationship, and sadly, some are willing to accept sub-standard treatment and conditions and remain in unfulfilling relationships rather than insist that their needs be met.
We will discuss how in a healthy relationship partners honor and support the individual needs and goals of their significant other and their right to a life outside of their relationship, so long as that life does not violate any of the other non-negotiables.
Above all, you do not want to get into a situation that is unhealthy for you or your significant other. You are equal in all decision-making that impacts your life.
There are a considerable amount of non negotiables for you to consider those things that you cannot compromise on when it comes to a love relationship that you want to be permanent in your future.
Determining your non-negotiables before starting a new relationship can save you a lot of heartache in the long run.
What are non negotiables?
- relationship non-negotiables are the things you should never negotiate about
If you have or want a romantic relationship, you most probably want a healthy one, right? But what is considered to be a healthy relationship, exactly?
There things that should never be up for negotiation. Ever!
- Mutual respect: Respect is arguably the most important part of a relationship’s foundation. Respect is all tied up into every other non-negotiable that can be mentioned here. Respect means you have a deep admiration for someone’s qualities, abilities, and achievements. When there is respect in a long-term relationship, it means that there is honor and unity and an understanding that there are boundaries that won't be broken, or any decisions made by one are not made without consulting the other. For example, neither one will make plans with others (friends or family) without both of them agreeing to these commitments.
- Inner peace: A peaceful mind is the most essential aspect when it comes to relationships. Having inner peace gives you more patience when dealing with your significant other, which can make your life much easier and your relationship with your partner much stronger. It is common for people to exit relationships just because their peace of mind was impacted negatively and affected.
- Happiness: Happiness is created in relationships where partners are in total harmony. In the rush of new love, couples are often willing to overlook some apparent incompatibilities that they may have.
- Standards: Everyone should have relationship standards. Would you get into a serious relationship with someone you knew was addicted to cocaine? On top of that, research has shown that people suffer distress when their romantic partners do not meet their standards. One common barrier that people face for setting high standards is the fear of losing their romantic partner or being alone. But it is important to set standards because it ensures that your needs are getting met.
- Limits/ Boundaries: This is a factor that couples entering a relationship don't always think about because they are so "head over heels" in love. But not setting these boundaries early on can cause conflicts, not to mention an unhealthy breakup. To make a relationship work, both partners must be able to lay down their boundaries that the other should not cross. What's okay and not okay in the bedroom or when you socialize with others? Once these boundaries come up in the early days of relationships they need to be addressed and the lines clearly drawn.
- Sense of reality/Maturity: Being mature is having the ability to live up to the responsibilities of a healthy relationship, and this means being able to act at a character level of adulthood. Maturity influences a person's ability to truly commit to a relationship for life and understand that commitment implies giving up all other partner choices. This, in turn, determines the level of trust and dependability present in a relationship.
- Emotional stability: Emotionally stable partners tend to be more secure, confident, and even-tempered and not over-reactive and generally maintain a positive attitude and demeanor. Emotional stability is what can literally take your relationships from just a fling to a long-term healthy commitment.
- Openminded: When you’re dating someone close-minded or stubborn and set in their ways, you’ll end up arguing all the time which may become an exhausting cycle! People and relationships can change over time, and you need to be willing to adapt to any new challenges that come your way. Most importantly, you need to be able to learn from each other as well as actively accepting and working on your mistakes in order to grow as a couple. While compromise is important, staying true to the things that matter is the best way to ensure the happy, healthy relationship you deserve.
- Abuse (emotional abuse, physical abuse, mental abuse) Abuse does not have to be only physical (but if it happens, you should be out of there immediately!). Emotional abuse should be a deal-breaker in any long-term relationship. Any of these behaviors of a partner should be a red flag that they are not right for you. Examples of abuse are: they criticize or put you down when you are with friends or family or find fault with even small things that you do - how you dress, what you cook for them, how you do laundry, criticize your friends and try to separate you from them and even try to control your daily activities, etc.
"Staying in an unhealthy relationship that robs you of peace of mind, is not being loyal. It is choosing to hurt yourself mentally, emotionally and sometimes, physically." This applies to both of you.
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