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Top 5 Rules to help you find a partner in the online dating world

If you want to give yourself the best chance of finding a compatible partner when you go online, you should follow these five golden rules.

By Jonathan DraperPublished 3 years ago 3 min read
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The world’s first dating website was launched 25 years ago. Few could have predicted how that spark would kindle a wildfire of social interaction – today there are thousands of sites and apps catering to every possible aspiration. People choose to join a dating site for many reasons – convenience, streamlined communication, choice of subject, range of potential partners, access to people from different cultural backgrounds – the list is endless. But if you want to give yourself the best chance of finding a compatible partner when you go online, you should follow these five golden rules.

Have a specific goal in mind

Another important rule is focusing on the type of partner you want to connect with. According to online relationship experts from upforit, much as it would be tempting to take advantage of the first suitable dating site, you need to be fairly adamant about what you hope to gain from online dating. If you are keen to match with a meaningful partner for a much longer-term relationship, apply to join a site that has stated this is the type of partnership they are catering for.

Sign up to an appropriate resource

Popping ‘online dating’ into a search engine will produce a dizzying variety of results. The first rule is to be discerning when considering which outlet to commit to from the incredible range of choice. While the choice might seem overwhelming, most sites offer free membership in the first instance. This means you can take your time assessing the available functions before deciding which service is best for you. Prepare a shortlist of those resources that seem to tick your boxes.

Always be approachable

You will have a much better chance of connecting with someone who will turn out to be an appropriate partner if you approach the matchmaking process with a relaxed and open frame of mind. Offline dating is often associated with mind games, or people stringing potential partners along. When you are connecting in the online world, your communications should always be honest and amenable. As you reach out to get to know other members, inject your messages with humor and self-deprecation. If you feel a particular match isn’t going to be right for you, simply send a polite message before moving on. Dating sites are so much more than places for singles to meet. They are vibrant communities. If you have been rude or discourteous to anyone, word will spread.

Hedge your bets

Another golden rule is to try developing a rapport with more than one particular individual. In the early stages of searching for a partner it would make sense to interact with several site users, getting to know their separate character traits while you decide which person seems to be the most appropriate fit.

Plan to go offline

Where finding your ideal partner is concerned, the final rule is that you aim to take any blossoming relationship into the real world sooner rather than later. People can get fixated on exchanging messages because it is such a streamlined way of communicating with a potential love interest. But the ultimate aim of these matching sites shouldn’t be providing a outlet where conversations can be conducted between computer screens. Online dating should always be seen as an introductory platform, preparing you for face-to-face encounters. So as you are building a sense of chemistry, always have one eye on where your first date could be conducted.

Security is everything

Not everyone you come across is going to be as committed to a fulfilling relationship as you might be. So spend some time ensuring you have developed the right sense of chemistry before arranging to meet up with a prospective partner in an offline location. Always ensure you tell friends about any rendezvous you are planning, and it would also be recommended for you choose a conspicuous location.

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Jonathan Draper

I'm Chief Editor of relationship blog at Loveaholics.com.

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